I am a girl attracted to girls, but just can't be with one, because there's something in my genes that tells me "no, no, no...". I know there's nothing wrong to be gay, but that something inside of me doesn't agree. Some people call that hang-ups, some people call it psychological disorder, but what am I supposed to do? Be lonely all my life?
2007-03-11 10:00:49 · 11 answers · asked by Lemmi 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I thought that way for awhile, as well, to be honest. I think it has something to do with our society brainwashing us that being gay is wrong, rather than your genes, though. Once I finally started dating girls, though, I know that I would never go back to being with men - ever. The connection is amazing. And the great part of all this is that another female will respect you and will not pressure you into doing anything sexual that you aren't ready to do. So, you can have the best of both worlds - enjoy being with those to whom you are attracted, and only engage in activities with which you are comfortable. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-11 10:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by jocelynt27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it something in your genes or something in your background. If you've been told all your life that something was wrong. Even in adulthood, those things will come back and guide you. Good or bad, that's the way it is. It's popularly known as brainwashing. We all get brainwashed, it starts the day we are born and continues until we die. Don't worry about it, that will only make things worse. Are you attracted to guys? if so then date one. if you're only attracted to girls then go with that. Ignore the little voice that says it's wrong. I know it's hard, but if that's really the way you feel, go with it. In the long run you will be a better person for it.
2007-03-11 19:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is holding you back is not in your 'genes'! What says no is the propaganda you have been taught by people who don't know what they are talking about. Sorry, these may be your parents, family clergy etc. HOWEVER - being gay is perfectly natural, enjoyable and comfortable. There are millions of happy gay couples and individuals all over the world. I absolutely guarantee that there are some in your town. Many don't advertise it, because of the negativity of ignorant people. Homosexuality has been going on forever, and always will go on. Don't be afraid of what you feel. Take the normal precautions that you would with any sexual partner, but enjoy sex whichever way you -as an adult- choose.
Have fun! Enjoy YOUR life.
2007-03-11 17:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try a therapist to try to discover your real feelings and why, if you are lesbian you have such a strong block against it.
There is nothing in your genes telling you no, no, no; this is your deep conditioning that it is wrong, overriding your conscious thought that it is not wrong.
You could also try pushing past the block and maybe after you actually experienced how wonderful it is to make love with someone who deeply attracts you, it would be OK.
I'm lesbian, and there really is nothing like it for me.
I wish you luck and that you can find a way to work this out for the best.
2007-03-11 17:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by irongrama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say you're attracted to girls, but your genes are telling you otherwise, that suggests you're misreading your feelings in the first place.
For people who are gay, being with someone of the opposite sex should feel like how you are describing.
If you hadn't had a partner for a while, or were particularly young, then I would suggest it was just a phase. Talk to a psychologist about it if you're really worried.
2007-03-11 17:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by Adam L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought that I may have been bisexual or lesbian (since so many people thought I was!) but had some subconscious homophobia or something... I can't be non-heterosexual just as some people can't be straight... it's like how some homosexuals have tried to be "normal" and it just doesn't feel right.
Perhaps you're really straight and that you aren't really attracted to women in the relationship sense, but are attracted to sexuality in general (I am!) and are attracted to women as friends... but the sexual aspect doesn't click with the friend. I don't get along with women and that's just the way I am.
2007-03-11 18:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just meet someone you are compatible with and don't get so hung up on what other people think. Live your life, if you only knew how much people didn't care about what you were doing you might feel freer to do what you felt was right. By the way, don't force yourself to be gay thats the same thing as forcing yourself to be straight if you were gay. Neither thing is natural. if deep in your hear t you don't feel wrong about it then it is right. But if you feel dirty doing it then its wrong for you.
2007-03-11 17:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you see a cute couple which are you attracted to, Him or Her ? Do you find any men attractive? You can have a girlfriend - do things together - hold hands - and even kiss -- nothing wrong with any of that . try spending time with a female friend for a few months avoid sexual contact and when your attitude about that changes find another friend who you find sexually attractive and experiment slowly. Your other friend may even surprise you. Good Luck.
2007-03-11 17:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by pilot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try dating a man for a while, than date a girl just ease yourself into it if its who you are go with it you can't run from who you are
2007-03-11 17:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Melly. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get transitioned
2007-03-11 17:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by cabridog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋