Whats up guys.. been and this girl have been together for 8 years... well recently, I don't think she's sexually attracted to me. Every time I bring it up she seems to blow it off. Tonight, we went into the bedroom and she said, "your not trying very hard.. you don't even wanna have sex with me.." but I was the one who brought it up all night. I said, "do you want to?" and she said, "Yes.. but it seems like you don't want to.. and I am tired right now.."
Ok, then we will get going and it'll seem like she's just going through the motions and I won't be turned on anymore.. and that point she will push me off and leave, acting upset and saying, "your not sexually attracted to me.."
What do you all think?
So we're laying in bed.. and she's like, "this isn't very romantic..." But yet, it is how we started it every other time. Confused???
2007-03-11 09:31:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm confused, why the hell is she with you without being married after eight years. I am guessing that she is sick and tired of your sorry butt, I know I would be.
I am married to a man, not a booty call.
2007-03-11 09:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dating for eight years? Where's her ring? When's the marriage proposal? She might be depressed it's been 8 years without a major commitment. I wouldn't stay together that long without a commitment.
2007-03-11 16:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't know how to seduce your woman. Learn how. There are a lot of online resources to help you.
I'm not talkin' about candles and flowers. That's only after you seduced her. Seduction starts in a woman's mind. If she doesn't have the mindset for romance, it won't work.
2007-03-11 16:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Things are getting stale and you need to spice it up. Be romantic and then when you get to the love making, be creative, do something new and exciting.
2007-03-11 17:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between "having sex" and "making love".
Stop having sex and MAKE LOVE to her....hold her & tenderly kiss her, take it slow, and warm her up gradually with LOTS of foreplay. Massage some scented oil all over her, after giving her a candle-lit bubble bath...whisper sweet things to her, take your time & do it RIGHT!!!
Sounds like both of you need more of this. It's easy to fall in a rut in the bedroom, and you need to frequently re-connect on a deeper level.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-11 16:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
woman..who can understand them?
ops..im 1.
ok heres the deal my friend..she may need some EXTRA attention..try to be a lil more romantic..bring her flowers, take her out to a romantic dinner, adn tell her how beautiful she looks..we love to hear that...then tell her that u R turned on by her...good luck
2007-03-11 16:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow, you really used your charm to spark an interest and get her in the mood and all hot and bothered and eager, great job
you actually asked her "do you want to?", how corny can you get, iam not surprised that she don't want to, at least not with you
2007-03-11 16:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋