He went out to a bar and came back at 3:00 am. We got into a fight and I said I should have just married my ex since he doesn't like to go to bars. He got really really mad. What should I do or say?
2007-03-11 09:27:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apologize & never say shallow things again.
2007-03-11 09:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Words like this often comes out of mouth during a heated argument and thats the biggest weak point for a woman resulting in a bad relationship. No man will enjoy making comparison with another man and it definitely hurt. Imagine if is the other way round.
In a way this is also a common problem among marriage couples. Try to refrain yrself in spilling out conversation with comparison, pass history and most important do not bring out past resolved issues.
Just go apologize and assure u don mean it. If both of u r mature and strong in relationship, this is only a small pebbles in yr obstacle.
U may need to face even bigger rock in future so move on!
Blessing to a wonderful relationship, cheers.
2007-03-11 23:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by RenRen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had no business coming back from the bar at 3:00. If he can't take the hurt, he shouldn't dish it. He's acting like a baby and trying to take focus away from the real issue.
2007-03-11 17:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to respect his reasons for not wanting to go to the bar. I know you probably was angery because he didn't go with you, but you have to think about things before you say them. Now that it's all said and done; you have to go talk to him and tell him how sorry you are for hurting him. Tell him that you really didn't mean what you said. And admite that you was hurt and you was trying to make him feel bad because you felt bad.
2007-03-11 16:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Nina1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you say sorry--what time did the bar close? and why is he at a bar where single people go--without his wife? not that i would go to a bar but he should be spending his time with you or at least in a more productive way, bars are BAD NEWS. if he wants to drink he can drink at home, single women go to bars looking for married men , they have no qualms about it. Your marraige will suffer for this bar business.
2007-03-11 16:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first thing he had no right staying out till 3:00 am hell I do not know of any Real Women who would except that kinda going on's, I'de feel safe at saying if you were at home in bed wearing your Thong feeling all in the mood and stuff,he's messing around on you! But thats just how I'de feel about it,add me to your messenger rpoker and we'll talk more
2007-03-11 16:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by rpoker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think you should do or say anything at this moment
i think you already did enough damage at this point with your mouth
next time be a little more considerate and think before you opened your mouth, after all, i seriously doubt you would want to hear your husband tell you that he should have married his ex because she was thinner than you or something like that just from the heat of the moment
the words spoken in anger hurt the most, because they are the words of truth
2007-03-11 16:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to forgive you. But he also shouldn't be going out to the bars until 3:00 in the morning. So you're both in the wrong.
2007-03-11 16:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mary G 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Did your husband start going to bars until 3am before you got married, or after. Maybe if you married your ex, he would be going to bars until 3am. Or maybe even later!
2007-03-11 16:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing, why did he stay out until 3 p.m. without calling you and letting you know. That's just rude. If he's going to play like that then you don't need to apologize.
2007-03-11 16:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
try saying you are sorry and you really didnt mean what you said.... and at the same time you should tell your husband that you dont like him staying out drinking that late, its not safe to do and you care about him and dont want him to get hurt
2007-03-11 16:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋