Do people take "till death do us part" seriously anymore?

Question

I have seen so many divorce & remarriages recently.

Is this because people simply can't control themselves?
Or are their mates really so bad they have to have a new partner?
Why do you think divorce is so high these days?

Do you think women or men initiate breakup most often?

Answer 1

Honestly I think people now a days prefer to take the easy way out.
There are so many excuses. I am tired of hearing the reasons mostly because a number of them are lame. Why on earth would you ask a person to marry you if you dam well know you cant wake up to this person every morning for the rest of your life!!!

You know there are the exceptions like abuse, cheating and so forth. Of course leave that person. Sometimes you don't what the other person is like that till the piece of paper is signed.

Answer 2

Why the high divorce rates? People believe the lies they see on television. Everyone has good jobs, great kids, wonderful partners, great sex lives etc. and they measure their own life against this make believe. This makes them dissatisfied with their situation and mate.

Control is an interesting word. Look at the growth of crime and selfishness since the focus on "self-esteem" has been encouraged throughout society. Me First is incompatible with making a lifelong commitment to care for someone else. That commitment speaks to putting THEM first ahead of yourself.

BTW, YES some do take vows seriously.

My mom and dad were married 51 years until my dad passed away.
My wife and I married 25 years next month. And even though there are times when we don't like each other, being without her would be like living without my arm. She's a part of me and I'm a part of her. She's the love of my life and that sustains our relationship through the rough times.

Answer 3

I think for some vows mean a lot. But too often people date and are sexually attracted and mistake it for love. If they would wait awhile before getting married, it would most likely wear off. I use to think men broke it off more, but with women's lib and all, I think more and more women are cheating and filing for divorce, with no regards for the family or their kids. In this society, the motto is, if it feels good do it. No matter what the consequences. I have principals, morals and values, I'd never cheat on anyone.

Answer 4

I believe that in today's world-people don't like to work "together". everyone wants to do what they want. They expect that a house or a family can work like that. It can not. I think that usually one person in the relationship starts thinking me me me, and forgets that they have a partner. In turn the other must start to think about themselves, so that the other partner does not "kill" them in the process. I don't mean murder, but emotionally. And yes, so many people can not control themselves. I do stand by my vows, but I surely will not let my partner beat me, or abuse/neglect me in any way physical or emotional. It is not worth dying together for. A relationship is NOT 50/50. it is 50 us and 25 wife and 25 hubby. and that is how it has to work. As for who does the breakup -it is hard to say. Both sexes has become just as selfish, negligent, greedy, as the other.

Answer 5

doesn't matter who initiates the breakup, it happens because people in general nowadays are too stupid to deal with something as complex as a relationship

a long time ago, family values were passed down generation to generation by the parents, but eventually globalization happened, and companies started manipulating the market to the point that the economy went a little nuts and things hapened to where both parents started to work because it was needed in order to survive, now with both parents working and being soo tired, who do you think passes down family values to the kids? the tele, thats who, and look at the tele right now and you will see who is a prominent role model, its the basketball star who is a woman beater and the football star who is a common criminal, and its the baseball star strung out on drugs, and its the rapper who is a killer, thats who is raising children nowadays

instead of children looking up to their parents for guidance they look up to people who can't even guide themselves, and thats who they learn from, and now they are grown up and what they have learned is that it is ok to get a quicky marriage and a quickier divorce because hell, my favorite actor from my favorite movie does it, or my favorite athlete or my favorite rapper does it.

doing such things is a learned thing, nothing more

Answer 6

I believe in it. My fiance knows that someone has to die before we get a divorce, so we wont even think about it. I think as adults they should be mature enough to work out any and all problems, with or without the help of therapy and counseling. I dont believe in divorces (with only a few exceptions).

If you arent grown up enough to know that marriage is a lifelong job- one that you have to keep working on, then you should never get married. And if you cant fully give yourself to just one person you should never marry.

i think a lot has to do with that many dont really get to know the person they agree to marry before they actually do. You need to know someone before you can love them.

Answer 7

Divorce rate is soo high because people don't take the time to really know their partners or their families. It does take time to know the person inside and out and sometimes there are still surprises ! Family members will tell gf/bf all about their sibling/child. Just give them the time to know you and they'll spill their guts !! You'll find out all you need to know in time.. SO ! PEOPLE !! REALLY INVESTIGATE UR PARTNERS !!!

Answer 8

In my case, I meant it.....my exhole was the one that wanted out after 25 years, so he could be with some skanky hoe-bag.

I met a wonderful man that I really feel is MEANT to be with me, and we are now married. We both feel that it's forever this time.

People get married for the wrong reasons----like pregnancy, for me-----and grow apart. They also don't try very hard to make it work, which of course is impossible when you are betrayed with a 3rd person.
I think it should be harder to get married--a mandatory year waiting period, perhaps. That would weed out those who don't think it through.

Answer 9

generations are becomming more and more rebellious to God, who made Them. Marriage is under attack. some people talk about your 'life partner', your 'alternative lifestyle,' etc. but God instituted marraige between a man and a woman and His hates divorce, He likens marraige as the relationship is between His Beloved Son Jesus and His Church.
children and society is taking the brunt of this sin--people are trading in moral values and standards for popularity or out of cowardess, people are afraid to speak the truth, unless they're like i am, God will only be so patient with mankind, He will not be mocked. so turn To Him, through Jesus.

Answer 10

You're being kind of selective in parsing those vows. Love, honor, etc. are missing.

It takes a lot more than a commitment to stay together to make a marriage really work.