If you saved two people from drowning and lost the third one how do you live with that?
Because ever since 1975 I have been traumatic of the loss that I could not save and it haunts me everyday.
2007-03-11 09:09:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You focus on the fact that you were there to save two people. You are only human and you can only do so much. You can never take a loss personally. What is, is. What was meant to be, is what is. I am no longer a paramedic but I was. Not only did I loose patients, but there were times I had to choose which one to try and save. I know in my heart, I did everything I could do, I helped who I could and I am satisfied with that. I just watched a movie called "The Guardian" and it adressed that issue a little bit. I am sure any move about search and rescue will address that issue. You should watch them or talk to someone you know who is a firefighter or paramedic or a police officer because they face that issue too. There isn't one who doesn't. You simply cannot take it personally. And another way I looked at it was I had to be in mentally good condition to be able to help anyone else. I'm no good if I freeze up. That goes for you too, whether you are in any of those professions or not. You are here for a reason IMO and you need to be in tip top shape to be able to help anyone else, you never know, you may get the chance again someday. And those you help won't be worrying about who you lost in the past, only that you were there for them.
And chances are the one that you weren't able to save, may have at the very least seen you try to help them and so didn't die alone, didn't die thinking no one cared or no one was there to save them. Do you know what I mean? You never know how deeply you impacted that person, or what your presence meant to them.
2007-03-11 09:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can begin to see yourself as a hero to 2 people and 2 families, rather than a failure on the side of one family and one individual, I believe it will help you.
Most of us are never offered the chance to help save someones life. You have given a great gift to the people you were able to help. And the family of the drowning victim probably feels grateful to you, as well.
I hope you heal soon.
Good luck.
2007-03-11 16:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Croa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a war veteran and combat navy independant duty hospital corpsman i know where you are coming from. i had to make this decision many times. all i can tell you that you are human and you did what you did and thats all that you could do. we call it the greatest good for the greatest number. please seek therapy and think about what a wonderful gift you gave those two surviving people. god is smiling at you.
2007-03-11 16:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand what you are going through, i had a similar experience happen to me. But what you have to realize is:
1. everything happens for a reason
2. you should be grateful for saving 2 lives
i know it is hard, we have to try our best to live through it
2007-03-11 16:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by GoldenGirlForever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ur Best Is All You Can Do ...Good Luck
2007-03-11 16:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was God's will & their time on earth was over. It was fate. It was not your fault.
2007-03-11 16:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋