I am so sick of my friend doing this! Its ......*Aaah*?

Question

My friend, shes emo. I can't help it, I hate the emo ways, I mean, I am a modern hippie, I like peace and I am always really easygoing and cheery. She constantly talks about death and whines and I can't take it anymore. We've been friends since fourth grade, but shes really changed. I don't mean to insult any emo people that might be reading this by the way, but how can i tell her to kinda ....well....I dunno, tone the emo stuff down a little....? Its driving me crazy shes so gloomy all the time!

Answer 1

i don't know, man. we're all going to die, so might as well just live for the moment.

i can't believe you make fun of emo. do you see me making fun of hippies? i'm going to tell all my emo friends that you're making fun of us. why can't you hippies leave us emo people alone.

seriously, we all die so your emo problem is small problem. bigger things to worry about, like how to change the world or make world better for our kids.

Answer 2

This happened to me with my best friend from all my life, and I'm in my early 40's, all she ever does is cry about money, when she's married, her kids is grown, and makes triple what I make w/ 2 kids at home now college, and one day I just let it blur out that I didn't want to talk to her anymore, that she crys about money, she doesn't know what not having money really is, I've raised my daughters on my own, without their dad's help or money, and they are in college now, which I give them all I can, and they know it and appreciate, and they work full-time and go to college full-time and are going into medicine, and although I don't have anything, I don't want them not to have anything, because I married their Dad, who turned out to be so sorry, and not pay, which they never learned till recently how bad he's made it on me, but, I told her that if she wants to cry and whine for anyone it should be me, because I work full-time, and I had to get off disability so my girls could go to college w/out the dr.s consent, and lost my house and car and sometimes don't have anything to eat, but, I make sure they do. I told her that she isn't a true friend, and I'm sorry she has problems, she is mental too, but, I have bigger ones, but, I don't whine and cry over it, if she wants to stay friends she will never, ever cry or whine to me about money, because she's never been like me and in my shoes, which I know there are worst people off, but, after I hung up on her and said it we didn't talk for weeks, and finally she called and said she was soo sorry, and it's been fine ever since...so you need to just flat out tell her what you feel and if she is your true friend, then she will stop, if not, then there you go, she wasn't and you have your peace again. My friend is szitzo, really, and I know it's her illness, but, when she heard it, and knew I wouldn't talk with her again crying over spilt milk, she called me...so I think you have to do the same..people will bring you down, and life can be a bummer anyway, we don't need anyone in our lives that are negative all the time, it just brings negative to our lives, and I believe if you feel at peace, you bring peace to your life no matter what is going on, you always find something positive about anything bad, and I've had more than my share of bad, I'm deaf, I'm a living miracle, not supposed to live through a wreck, and been raped, battered wife, that's why I'm deaf, but I made a positive out of it, and even though I might not have money, my kids will one day, I made the decision to marry their dad and bring them into this world, and it's been my decision to raise them, and keep them happy and give them the basics that's what a mother does, and a friend does the same...good luck

Answer 3

well you could say listen I don't like that u talk about emo stuff all the time and it really bugs me I had the same problem and when i told her How I felt she stoped u should really try it

Answer 4

I'd like to know what emo is? I've heard this online and guess i'm dumb, I never heard it before. Someone please tell me. Is it depressing people like the girl you speak of? Tell her the truth, you need her to lighten up or you can't hang out.

Answer 5

i used to date a guy who talked about killing himself. i thought that if i ended the relationship because i didnt want that responsibility-- he just MIGHT end his life. it took a while for him to grow up, and we eventually broke up because of something else-- but just ignore her emo ways. Angsty people can get on a lot of people's nerves just by complaining..

Answer 6

oh my god i know what you mean!

i am going through the same thing. i am very laid back and sure i get sad sometimes but i dont let it KEEP me down for too long and my friend is always sad or feeling bad about SOMETHING.

its so frustrating! i think its time for me to back off and try not to be around my friend too much. i dont want those bad emotions to rub off on me.

good luck

Answer 7

Just tell her exactly how you feel that you're not asking her to change but just to tone it down when shes with you because its making you feel bad. If she doesn't respect your wishes then perhaps you spend less time with her

Answer 8

Let her know. its best to be honest with her. Its just a phase that she will be going through, i think most people go through a similar road at one point or another. Be patient with her but let her know that you dont like seeing her in like that.

Answer 9

honesty is the best way that you can help her, so tell her the truth how you feel . and be there for her, it sounds like she feels she has no friends and is lonely. good luck.

Answer 10

just say that it kills you to see her act this way and that you would appreciate it if she would stop and if she says no then tell her you dont want to hang out so much.....stuff like this can damage hers and you attitude