I am nice, get good grades, people say I'm pretty, loyal, never have i said anything about my friends behind there back, but how come people still hate me!!! No, I am not rotten, people say that i need to start being mean, but still nice!!!
2007-03-11 08:57:43 · 21 answers · asked by Lindsayyy ツ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well you sound like a very nice and good friend, and if these certain people think you are mena, and you arent, just ignore them, i have ppl at my school, who think everyone is mean, and they do nothing at all, and there the ones who start everything and make matters worse. An you dont need to become mean, that would just resort to the wayy they act. Or/And, they are maybe jealous, that you are prettier, nicer, loyaler, and smarter than them. Maybe that is what they want to be like (be like you i mean).I dont think this has ever happened to me, but if i did, i would be pretty annoyed for them lying and stuff like that, try to ignore them at first, and them if it continues, confront them..not being mean, that would be giving in.btw i am probly nera your age too....and a gurl, obviously, lol.
2007-03-11 09:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by deleted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to decide whose opinion you value most. You quote "people" as saying three totally different things about you:
1. that you're pretty and loyal
2. that they still hate you
3. that you need to start being mean, but still nice
It depends on who these "people" are. If it's your parents, teachers, friends you look up to, then you should consider what they are saying and find out how you could improve.
But most likely, the "people" don't matter anyway. They're mean, catty, spiteful, jealous, and otherwise trashy friends who are only out to advance themselves. What do YOU think about yourself? Stop worrying about it, as long as in your own conscience, you are everything you should be. You know yourself better than anyone else, and as long as you know you're a wonderful person, forget what "people" are saying.
2007-03-11 16:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people are intimidated by someone that seems too perfect. I wouldn't worry about it too much. They are jealious of you. It will all pay off later. Sorry you have to suffer over other peoples ignorance. Hang in there though things will look up when some of them grow up and see what is right in front of them. A true friend. We need more people like you. Good luck and don't let yourself get dragged down. Keep your head up and keep doing what you are doing.
2007-03-11 16:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a case of being mean it's more standing up for yourself and not letting people walk over you. If someone hates you then you shouldn't care, it's their problem if they want to waste their energy hating.
You just get on with your life knowing that you are loved by the people you care about and who care about you. Keep on being nice and don't let the jealous ones get you down.
2007-03-11 16:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That doesn't make very much sense, but it sounds to me that they are so concerned w/ themselves that they don't notice how nice you are... Maybe you should get some new friends or something, b/c they will just keep telling you the same things unless you tell them how feel about it and they understand, but if not, than find someone else to hang out w/...
2007-03-11 16:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ υηнєαя†є∂ ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them...They aren't the people you need! You sound like a real good person, and if people don't like the way you are then tough! Don't let your "friends" change who you really are and want to be inside. You will be much happier doing what your doing than they will be in the long run!
2007-03-11 16:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As nice as you may be, there will still be haters out there. It could be (and most of the time) is that the other are jelous of you. you sound like a very good person. stay with your friends and family.
2007-03-11 16:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Fox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not meant to like or be liked by everyone in the world. If that were true then there'd be no war, no indifference. It's just human nature to be different and to be liked and not liked by different people. Get a grip, hang w/ the people you like and who like you, and just let the others have their space..
2007-03-11 16:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same thing. its because they're jealous of how you are.. maybe they aren't pretty and aren't nice and they envy the fact that you are, so they feel better when they make you feel down. just ignore them and show them that you dont care what they say. if they hate you, they aren't worth dealing with anyway.
2007-03-11 16:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by !mickdee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No matter who you are, no matter what you do in this life, people will talk about you. Thats just the way it is. So be strong and believe in yourself, be the best person you can be and just go on with your life. No worries!!
2007-03-11 16:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋