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I found my little sister and her boyfriend having sex and I haven't told my parents she is only 15 and I don't know what to do I don't want to tell on her because I don't want to get her in troble but I want to protect her as much as I can.... any advice on what to do I haven't talked to her since I caught her in the act.

2007-03-11 08:50:41 · 20 answers · asked by Have_A_BIG_PROBLEM 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

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I guess your sister hasn't been informed,if she had been,then i dont think your innocent minded and responsible sister would such.I love your reaction towards it ,ie, not wanting to tell your parents.Nevertheless,i think its good you call her aside with a good approach(a way she wont feel bad and offended),tell her how much you love care,and are concerned about her,her studies and future.Let her know she acted bad,let her know the dangers and consequences.Stress the importance of abstinence and keeping herself till marriage.Encourage her,show your trust for her,train her to have the POWER OF NO in her words,to men who ask of such things as sex,and unholy relationships.You could as well buy her good story books meant for youths and teens`,books that mostly stress the importance of abstinence and facing the future,you know what i mean.I trust you,you can do it.

2007-03-11 12:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by oyewole t 1 · 0 0

Telling the parents might just cause a life long rift in the relationship you have with your sister. Offer her some help and also talk to the boy and, frankly, I would threaten him with the law. Now it is illegal to have sex with girls under 16 in some states 18 in others: this kid is playing with fire and can do to jail for his actions.

Talk to her. Ask what she is doing for birth control. Tell her what forms of birth control are available and take her to Planned Parenthood if you can do. If she is having sex; she is not likely to stop so....I would get her on the pill and be sure she takes it every day.

I think parents get too upset over these matters and sometimes do not take the sort of action that may be the best. The girl needs sex education and birth control.

We tend to place too many constraints on our young people in the US today and raging hormones make it hard to deal with the supposed "morality" of the issue when music, movies, and media glorify extramarital and underage sex.

2007-03-11 08:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Tell to put herself first. She needs to be protected from STD's and especially HIV. You as a big sister should tell her everything she needs to know on how to protect herself. Let her know the importance of condoms, and maybe even give her some. I am not saying what she is doing is right but if she is going to do she should be protected, HIV and AID cases are rising in this country at staggering rates and I know for a fact you would not want something like that to happen to your baby sis. Now the telling your parents part is all on you. Would you want them to know if it was you? How will that affect your relationship with her? Think about that before you tell or not. Hope this helps.

2007-03-11 09:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by xxxchokolatexxx 1 · 0 0

I'm going through the same thing with my 15 year old sister, except for she has now moved in with her boyfriend. There isn't much you really can do, but be a good sister, and try to give her the best advice you know. If you tell her not to have sex, she's going to do it anyway. Take her to planned parenthood and get her checked out for std's , and than they will probably put her on birth control, give her condoms, and they will probably teach her about the dangers of having unprotected sex.

2007-03-11 09:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Renegade Rhianna 3 · 0 0

BUMP that. Tell them. She is young and dispite what she thinks, she REALLY doesn't know everything. If you want to protect her, let your parents put the fear of God in her(translation:that little girl could stand a whoopin and so could her boyfriend. Man, I wish my parents woulda done something about me back in the day! YEESH!)
Okay. I'm getting fired up.
I'm sorry.
I understand you don't want to break a confidence, but y'all are young. She will grow up, hopefully, and will forgive you-especially if she becomes a parent-which hopefully is later in life and not sooner. If you care about her, this is one of those times when it is okay to let her call you a ratfink for telling your parents. If it was her smokin weed or snorting or huffing-or anything else that could harm her, you would hopefully tell. This situation isn't much difference.
Wishing you and your sister all the best.

2007-03-11 12:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0 0

Talk to her first. Tell her about the dangers of having sex and why she shouldn't be doing it. Maybe instead of telling your parents that your sister was having sex, you should suggest that you and your mom and sis sit down and have an open conversation about sex.

If I had a 15 year old daughter, I would want to know. Your sister might get mad at you, but you could be saving her life. What if she was having unprotected sex and is risking her life (std's, hiv, aids). You don't want your sister getting pregnant at this age, that will def. change her life completely. Maybe you should talk to mom.

2007-03-11 09:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by So_many_questions 3 · 0 0

The best way to is to tell her that you understand how she feels as a young teen. Just talk to her about sex and how it can really change your life if you're not safe. You don't have to tell your parents if you don't want to but if you don't try to talk to her she might get caught up in a bunch of crap in the long run.

2007-03-11 09:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Future_Female_Civil_Engineer 2 · 0 0

You should talk to your sister immediately and make sure she's having safe sex. If she's not she should be tested. Then get her to talk to an adult, your mother, an aunt, a doctor some one she can trust.
15 is too young for sex.

2007-03-11 08:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lyna 2 · 1 0

seems such as you have permit him destroy out with this habit for too long so the only way you will get him to end is to be in basic terms be direct. the subsequent time he says something this is not any suited or makes you sense uncomfortable, call him on it. you do no longer could be impolite or offended, in basic terms say, "i'm sorry, _____, yet i do no longer like it once you consult from me like that and that i understand that is been occurring for a jointly as whether it particularly makes uncomfortable and that i might such as you to stop."

2016-09-30 12:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

maybe u could take her to the clinic and get her put on the pill if shes not alredy onit. but u cant stop her its natural shes a teenager and not far frm the legal age. my mum took me to get on the pill wen i was just 13. its always better to be safe than sorry.

2007-03-11 09:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by jessicamannuk 1 · 0 0

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