i'm so hurt! i'm 6mo pregnant and my fiance broke up with me becuase he said he was tired of the aggrevation and mood swings ( WHO SAYS THAT!!?? ) i know i'm an idiot for doing this but i always call him and tell him i want to have a family that to please give it a chance to work that his reason of leaving is rediculous an he keeps telling me no he likes it the way it is now. last night he asked me if we could still have sex i said no because one i know he just wants to use me and two i know he will be having sex with other people as well and i told him that. he said well if you wont give it to me i'm going to go to someone else. that killed me inside we were together for 3 years and for him to say that is is wrong. then he said ok give me some time and we can be together when the baby is born i want you to come back to the apartment and all this b.s then this morning he says i don't know what i want to do yet. y is he doing this to me. how to i be stong and move on?
2007-03-11 08:32:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This must be soooo difficult, it saddens me when guys act like this. It won't be easy but you have to become strong in yourself, for your sake and your baby's. You have to start putting yourself and child first. If he is not prepared to take responsibility, do not continue to allow him to use you physically. I'm not saying to cut him out of your life becoz for your child's sake it would be best if you could be friends at a later stage. But don't allow him to hurt you!!
Find something special that you enjoy, that can keep you busy...a lot of baby things to get into...
Remember that you are a unique and special woman and that God has an amazing plan for your life and the life of your unborn baby. Be strong and good luck :)
2007-03-11 08:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words, he is trying to skip out on the responsibility of the baby, the birth, the bills, diapers etc.. If he is not faithful to you now, he will not be later. Your baby deserves better than a sperm donor. Tell him to get lost, file for financial help, put him on all paper work as the daddy, then file for child support the day after the baby is born. This guy has no intention of being a good husband and daddy. He should have thought about all this freedom he likes and wore protection. He is not worth the stress that your going through. Dump him, he will do the same thing and probably worse after the baby is born. You can do better than him.
2007-03-11 15:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by zack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby complicates the situation but one thing remains ... YOUR RESPECT.... and he doesn;t have that in mind. If he doesn't want to be with you... only for sex... then kick his *** to the curb. You have to realize that he isn't going to be a part of your life ( but he is the father and if he is willing to be a responsible father, then he should be in the child's) he does have a financial responsibility.... and make sure he supports that baby... even if it means taking him to court. As far as him saying .. wait till the baby is born.. well mister... nothing is going to change.. except... if he can't get involoved now,, having a baby is more demanding.. etc... so in other words.. tell him that you don't want him in your life unless he can Commit.. to YOU and the BABY... and no one else.... and if not,,, then there is nothing between you two.. but the baby.. and when the time comes.. he will be responsible for it too... I would suggest talking to someone IE/ family responsibilities... a lawyer for support.. get in contact with someone "now" to talk about what will happen when the baby is born and support payments....
Don't try to get him back by begging... because what will happen is he might come back.. but won't be ther 100% as well.. he will prob. be with others... he doesn't want to face the responsibility....
take care
2007-03-11 15:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by kAtTs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take this to heart. This guy is the biggest loser alive. Any guy who would treat you like this does not deserve a second glance. Being that you are pregnant (with his child?) makes this even more amazing. I'm sure you love him, but re-examine why. he doesn't deserve it. He is sleeping around already, he is just trying to guilt you into sleeping with him, so he doesn't want to tell you. Its hard to hear, from him and from others, that he is not being faithful and wants to be with other women. But, its true. The best thing you can do for you, and most importantly for your baby, is to cut him out of your life and have him pay court ordered child support. DO NOT get back with him or you will regret it. It sounds like he is 15 yrs old, and unless he is, he has no excuse and will never change. He is already being so cruel to you, I don't understand why you even want him. You deserve better and to put your baby through this mess is cruel of you. You do not want a family with this man. Trust me, you will be so much happier without him. You just have to trust yourself, and do whats best for your baby, because that is all that matters now. Not your feelings for him, or his feelings for you, or his feelings toward the baby (which you can't control). Move on for your own sake, and for your baby's sake.
2007-03-11 15:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by ejc_360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's doing it because he's a jerk that's why!! You are pregnant and that should be one of his main concern the welfare of you and his unborn child. He is so full of it. I really hope you find the strength to focus on you and your unborn child now. Get support from family and friends. Your hormones are already in chaos and you don't need the added stress in your life. Perhaps in time he will realize he was being a jerk and come to his senses. If he doesn't, do what's best for you and the baby. Your baby will need you much more than he will.
2007-03-11 15:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Denese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he is such a child est man, if we can even call him a man right now. To tell you if you don't have sex with him he will go elsewhere now that is something a high school guy would say not a man who will soon be a father. Of course it killed you because you still are in love with selfish, conceiving man who right now only thinks about his self. You can be strong for your child your carrying, that child needs a Daddy not someone who will change from day to day.
2007-03-11 18:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this will help:
Tell yourself what a selfish asshole he is for doing this to you when you need him the most. Remember that he cannot be counted on to do the right thing. Realize how terribly immature he is, and how much BETTER your life will be without him!!!
He is a liar, a horn-dog and a cheat...you and your child deserve MUCH better!
Just make damn sure you get child support out of that loser!
2007-03-11 16:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he don't care about you or his unborn child all he cares about is sex with who ever he may get a disease if not already sorry he's treating you this way he should be there for you now helping you while your pregnant instead leaving you along
2007-03-11 15:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him and be strong for the sake of your baby
2007-03-11 15:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋