He left me, and i know I also have a lot to do with that, but what does that mean??? Im so confused. I know this man loves me. I dont want a divorce. its ony been a week.
2007-03-11 08:24:10 · 24 answers · asked by Kimberly G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This means that he has a bad self image and maybe loves you but feels unworthy to be with you. This is something that he has to face and deal with...not something you can fix. Encourage him to face his fears and remind him that you chose him, doesn't matter who deserves what (unless he is abusing you-that's another story), you are committed to him and will help him to face whatever is happening together.
2007-03-11 09:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is lacking communication and any relationship without that is doomed for failure. That is the most important aspect of being w/someone else. If you don't know what is bugging ur partner, u'll feel ousted and that will make you hostile and say things that you don't necessarily mean. Your best bet is to sit down w/him and explain what you feel and what bothers you. If he's not willing to open up, then there is something that he's hiding and may not want to be in the relationship. Especially if he picked up and almost left last nite. That gives a lot to think about! You do deserve better and he may bot want to be with you anymore but doesnt know how to say it. There is a possibility that he has someone else and is trying to get out of ur relationship. Although you say he's never cheated, look for signs because the ones you've pointed out, are signs also. Good luck!!
2016-03-29 00:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his sleazy way of getting out of the relationship smelling like a rose. Take it for what it is - this guy is a skunk. If he loved you, he would treat you the way you deserve and wouldn't hurt you. But he is selfish and doesn't want to change or fix how he treats you. This is a line guys give women when they know they have a good woman, but want a different one and are trying to justify it. Give him the divorce - rather- throw it in his face before he changes his mind. You'll be glad that you'll never know just how much worse it could have been.
2007-03-11 08:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by ejc_360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it was yet another way of a man who seems incapable of handling long drawn -out [important] conversations with his woman, so he attempts to get out of by telling you something he thinks will be easier on you. He may come back, he may just want some space, be patient, don't be foolish and do or say things that you wish you hadn't. Show him you are stronger that that. Don't throw away your marraige if this is only one isolated temporay thing. However if he does come around--you guys really need to talk, tell him later; that this is inexceptable behavior--why does he feel the need to run?
show him what he is missing and i mean the good wholesome homelife, not just sex. Most of all don't whine and nag if you really hope he'll come home, go to Jesus at this time, He cares for You. one more thing, if he has made this his final choice, you have to accept it and go on, then do what's best for yourself.
2007-03-11 08:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby work at it if you guys love eachother. You want to be together still then why part? Honey work at it I don't know what the hell I would do if my husband left me. Love him and try getting help as well as let him love you. Compromise and trust each other adding a bit of love to the relationship this is the ruth of the tree communication and prayers. Go get some sort of professional help and everythign would be fine...
2007-03-11 08:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are clueless and to be honest they do not know what they want, they keep hoping from one woman to another looking for the next thrill, rolling stone they say gathers no moss.
Honey, go and look for a real man that wants you and baby this time check him out to make sure he is a grown man.
2007-03-11 08:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All marriages are worth trying to save. Sounds like husband has some guilt about something. Talk this out before you and or him make any divorce decisions.
2007-03-11 08:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a typical guy taking the easy way out.
That is like the "its not YOU its ME" line. It pretty much means that he is trying make himself feel less guilty. If you believe that he is leaving you because you deserve better, then you may think, Oh, he loves me and just wants me to have the best.....Um, Bull Sh*t.... it is a cop out. He is leaveing becuase he wants something different.
2007-03-11 08:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I know what your going through, my wife left me about 3 years ago, the fact is that he already hurt you, and probably has someone else in his life. The good news is that Jesus loves you, and He will never leave you, all He wants is your heart.....may God give you the strength and wisdom that you need......God bless you
2007-03-11 08:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are excuses. He still loves you. Maybe he is going through a midlife crisis which may include having someone else. It is a very difficult period. Check out these sites. I found them very helpful. Either way.. if you have faith in your marriage and his love for you, holdfast.
http://midlifeclub.com/
http://www.midlife.com/html/resources/articles/articles_list_body.asp
http://www.health24.com/Man/Relationships/748-752-753,23675.asp
2007-03-11 08:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋