Hey! I was just wondering if it's possible to have a loving satisfying marriage between 2 people of different nations, cultures even? Because very often it is said that it's quite hard for people of different mentalities to live together? What do you think? Is it so?
2007-03-11 08:22:22 · 10 answers · asked by LadyLike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is most definitely possible. And even "easy" if one or both partners is fluent in the other's language and knows a little about their home culture. In my experience (four years with a Bangladeshi, I'm American) the main issues arise when family comes into the picture; am I fluent enough to speak to his mother, for example, or what do they think about our life together? Will the extended families' shock eventually wear off or will it remain?
When parents and extended family get involved it becomes a cultural tug-of-war with the two lovers stuck in the middle. Other than that; we get along perfectly. Our differences of opinion and experience make for hours of great conversation and debate. I think in international relationships you must really admire and love the person and trust that they feel the same for you; because you will fight about important issues (like religious differences), but if you have that trust and a strong commitment to each other these kinds of things are merely interesting, sometimes memorable, pit-stops along the road of marriage.
2007-03-13 18:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Blirp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with that theory. I mean the common quote is opposites attract. Look at today's men. Many are traveling to Japan and Russia for possible brides! Not because they believe in that quote, but the see a characteristic trait that has long since been depleted in American women. It's called respect. Many of these are from the old school. They remember a time when women walked behind a husband not beside him which is appropriately accepted today. The two guys I know that went this direction will always love and cherish their wives, because these women have what the husbands yearn. Me, I chose an American strong willed wife! I wouldn't have it any other way. So who knows. Throw the dice see what comes up, or get out there find what you like.
2007-03-11 11:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible; but it is a hell of a lot of work and pain to get there. I am in an international marriage and know several couples who have them as well. They all say that it is hard as hell and a pain in the butt and they wouldn't just reccommend it to everyone. I would really be careful and would strongly advise you to look for someone from your own nation or culture.
2007-03-11 09:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It, hard these days for anyone to co-habitate in the same envioronment for the length of a marriage but, most other cultures(I'm talking civilized) still believe in traditional value and will not run for the door in the mist of a problem. Asian people are a good example. Grant it they have divorce too but it is not as rampid as it is here in the US. best hting to do is to know each other background and study each other history. Most of all talk alot. like they say the key to the future is to understand the mistakes of the past. good luck.
2007-03-18 06:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by lasman37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage even to your race and background is difficult. You both have to work at it. However, marrying someone from a totally different culture, country, traditions is twice as hard.
You have to learn each others cultures and respect each others ways. It will be a rough road, especially when the children come, you must discuss how you will raise them together, before they exist, his ideas and your ideas have to be interchanged. You must consider this very carefully.
2007-03-17 19:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tinribs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before two people can live or move along together they need to want the same things regardless of culture, race or nationality.
It doesn't matter is you are from Sudan and the guy is from Hanolulu island, if you guys want the same thing, trust me it will work
2007-03-11 09:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think as long as both of you are willing to be exposed to different things that your culture consist of. Try not to complain so much it will just sadden both of you. If its something you see yourself completely unable to agree with then have a calm talk with your spouse. Be open minded you have to bend a little in marriage!
2007-03-18 15:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by gchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am american and I am married to a Mexican and all I dated before was white guys. He is my soul mate, but sometimes you will have different views on things, but I woudn't say that its hard to live with someone of a different culture. I don't reget my decision , its been the best one of my life!!
2007-03-18 17:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a similar relationship and to the point it is great although there have been some rocky moments. You must realize there will be differences and be prepared to discuss and deal with them as they arise.
2007-03-11 08:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible,I dont think it matters after all,the only problem if none of them is willing to adjust from each other uniqueness
2007-03-18 03:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋