2007-03-11 08:21:03 · 14 answers · asked by angelnymphette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know of many adults who were married for several years (and with grown children) but yet are still in love with the boyfriends/girlfriends they were with prior to when they got married to other people!
2007-03-11 08:34:32 · update #1
money, great sex, they had "accidental" kids, they thought they loved them, they're scared of what might happen if they don't, like abuse, their parents wanted them to, they get along perfectly but there's no love, they want to avoid being lonely, they just want to be married b/c everyone else is getting married.... there are TONS of reasons.
2007-03-11 08:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that that is not the way things are. People marry with high expectations. Seems that thru time &trials people get busy and seem to become distant. The key to a happy marriage is equality, and communication. Keeping the other happy and constantly working at it..... I do not think people marry that do not love eachother, unless they do so out of obligation of pregnancy- which is not right, or you hear people "stay together for the kids" which is just another cliche... they would not stay if they were not getting something from it.
2007-03-11 15:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jenblossom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a heat of the moment type thing. You're so hooked on the idea that someone wants to spend the rest of their life with you, that you forget the real reasons why he asked you to marry you, like love and trust.
2007-03-11 15:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by LIVE FREE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love amazingly enough is not needed for a successful marriage. Mutual respect, understanding, and a willingness for change is.
In my family we are not known for marrying for love. I didn't marry for love, my parents didn't marry for love, my grandparents didn't, nor did my husband's parents. Love grew out of these unions later on, but was not the reason that they married in the first place.
2007-03-11 15:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See Fiddler on the Roof.-
There's a great sondg- Do you love me?
After twenty-five years of doing you wash, and making your meals and raising your kids, after twenty-five years it's now that you ask?!?!?
Yes, I love you.
People end up loving each other if they are committed, and arranged marriages foster that.
Marriages for love fall apart more often than not.
Hmm...
2007-03-11 15:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, all I can say is that people get married for all the wrong reasons, but in some cases they were force to get married or they was just tryin to get at his/her ex-girl/boyfriend or wife/husband just to make them mad other than that some might just think their in love when their not
2007-03-11 15:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mz. New Orleans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There idiots! Either for moneyor the easy way out or both. It ain't right man. Love should always be in marriage when two soulmates find each and they wanna be with each other for the rest of their life.
2007-03-11 15:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by Robby M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people do it for convenience,obligation, or they just settle.
A lot of people settle because they don't want to be lonely and take the first thing that comes along.
2007-03-11 15:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Joan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons vary, for men possibly more physical attraction for women the biggest reason is probably money and status.
2007-03-11 15:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lonliness, companionship, security...a million reasons depending on the person, but even if it isn't love at first, in time you can grow to love one another
2007-03-11 15:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋