My husband works a lot. I really love him and he is my best friend, but when he is home for extended periods of time, he messes up the routine.
Please don't get me wrong--we are a happy family, but I enjoy that I can spend time and energy on my son and do things for myself--I also love taking care of my husband, but sometimes, ..I'm just ready for him to get back to work--it sounds so mean--
I think absence does make the heart grow fonder.
What do you think?
2007-03-11 08:17:04 · 10 answers · asked by smp1969 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks for all of the responses, I di think it is normal, but I also like the lady who said to cherish, because these are people we love and adore. He's gone right now, but we're meeting up for dinner--I'll have to show him how much I cherish him tonight!
2007-03-11 09:00:58 · update #1
My husband drives me nuts when he's home a lot too and we've been married almost 20 years! Then, when he DOES finally go on a hunting trip, or a motorcycle trip, I go nuts wanting him to be home again. And lastly, when he GETS home from one of these trips when I've missed him soooooo much, I ALWAYS ask myself: " WHAT WAS I THINKING! "
2007-03-11 08:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Krtyr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your a normal well adjusted person. We all need our own "space" in this world. This is the biggest problem when a spouse retires from his job later in life, the routine is set and some find it hard to adjust. If it is just a matter of him underfoot during his days off give him things to do, like trips to the store or cleaning out the garage or basement. Suggest a visit to his mother or best friend, let him know you don't want to monopolize all his free time. I found that guys "think" their females "want" them around all the time, when in fact they would rather be off to themselves fishing anyway
2007-03-11 08:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that impacts on routine can be a little annoying...but it keeps things interesting and not always the same. Don't feel guilty, if you love him in a true way that he can see and feel it, you're a great wife! Those things and times that you spend on yourself, make you the woman that he loves...so it is also good for him and your son. If you are happy and fulfilled it flows over into your family
2007-03-11 08:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're just used to him not being there all the time... and since you've probably been together for a while, you just like to have some time away from him. Nothing wrong with it, unless it's causing some bigger problems.
Oh, and I think "absence makes the heart grow fonder" means when you're away from someone you start to love them more, and when you finally get to see them again, it's pure bliss... but I guess it's open to interpretation. :)
2007-03-11 08:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is the same way. I drive her nuts. When I am home on a weekday the routine gets all messed up. I get on her nerves because I mess up her system. It is normal and don't feel bad about it. Just remember his routine is messed up on those days too. It's hard for me because I have the kids after work till she gets home and when she comes home early she gets me all messed up. I figure it's just one of those things we will miss when the kids are all grown up and we can laugh about it then when our kids complain about the same thing. Just smile and enjoy it. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-03-11 08:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by CJ5fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own little routine that they like to follow but I don't think that you should be annoyed when your husband is home..That to me sound's very selfish..And if something were to happen and he died tomorrow I bet you would EAT your words.Life is too short to be so selfish..I am not trying to be mean or cut you down I am just speaking the truth..You don't know what you have til it's gone and then it is too late...
2007-03-11 08:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I personally find this to be quite normal! I think it is just in our nature to want our space. As long as that is all indeed and there are not other factors that you may not want to perceive?
Only can answer that question. If not then all is well and no worries!
Good luck!
2007-03-11 08:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by U812B4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a tendecy to this. Unfortunately that is where he lives as well.
2007-03-11 08:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by Don't Know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal phenomenon.essential family flavour
2007-03-11 08:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got "his space." You've got yours. When he's annoying you, seduce him. That'll shut him up!!!
2007-03-11 08:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by WILLIAM W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋