im at this training centure and there girls and boys that go but i feel that cause i have nothink in common with them i dont get along with them that well,they see me as a person to talk to there but not like a realy friend.sometimes i feel im a borring person amd thats why when i try to make friends they just see me as someone to talk to.
could that be why im not making friends
2007-03-11 08:16:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
aw. i am sure that this is all in your head. you THINK that people see you as a person to talk to. but that is what YOU think - i'm sure they don't think that at all! sometimes it is too easy to think negatively about yourself.
try to be more positive - i know this can be easier said than done. but just take a second to think about the good things about your personality - if you give it some thought you will probably be able to think of loads! write them down and read them before you go to the training centre and focus on them.
and the most important thing - smile! people will feel much more comfortable around you when you smile! if you let people know that you are feeling happy then they will feel happy too!
just have a chat to them - i'm sure you have more in common than you think! and if you don't, that's ok too - they might actually think it's interesting that you have different hobbies or a different background to them!
remember, if you feel more positive, then people will pick up on that. happiness is infective!!!
good luck! :)
2007-03-11 08:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi are you new to this training centre, because if you are Im in the same situation as you are and I know how you feel. I have to get use to people at the triaining centre and at my new placement which I started on Friday and no one spoke to me hardly and barely asked me who I was or what I was doing there. I dont let it bother me though as I would rather prefer to be on my own, yes if someone talks to me I will talk to them. But by the sounds of thing they just talk to you when they feel like it, They sound like stuck up people that you dont really want to be socialising with any way your better or without people like that in your life. Just think of it this way. Your there to do your training and get your qualification, you are no way boring so I would get that out of your head as it does you no good. It not that you dont get along with them well it seems they arent willing to give to a chance to be there friends which is making you feel uncomfortable. They way I see it is you dont need people like that and I bet they wont get far in the qualification because of all the chatting they do.
If you think or they are doing it on perpous like giving you dirty looks or making you feel there talking about you, then speak to your advisor then she might change you day to go.
Dont worry about sitting on your own doing you work. There is nothing wrong with it. Your either in the click or your not, when someone new come into train with your group get to talking to them first and 9/10 they will stick with sitting with you.
If there giving you hassel stand up for your selfs and let them know. They will leave you alone in the future and you will feel better for givnig them a gob ful.
2007-03-11 16:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you are not their type or you need to learn how to make friends. It could also be that something(poor hygeine, character, tribalism etc) scares them away from you or you don't fit in their clique.
My advice would be :
1.check yourself and make corrections(for example improve dressing and hygiene).
2. Love yourself and be lively, and keep yourself busy if you can when you feel bored.
3. Don't give a **** about them or think they are better than you are and never hate them but if you need anything ask; if anyone snubs you avoid or decide on how to relate with the person.
2007-03-11 15:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by good day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually know exactly what you mean i used to feel like that all the time. all you have to do is take as many chances as you can, and get to know a couple people really really well, then when your around those people you wont feel held back and youll make more friends. i used to be sort of lifeless and almost antisocial. but now im one of the most popular people in my grade. other than that mr.perfect (you all know who im talkking about, theres one in every grade)
2007-03-11 15:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not boring - we all have a right to be our own person. Dont be so hard on yourself. I used to be shy to the extreme when I was younger, but I'm quite an out-going person now (at almost 50) so just be yourself - and be happy.
2007-03-11 18:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you could do is cheer and enlighten up! That helps! It happened to me before, friend. Try giving them treats every time you see them. Talk to them extra nicely/politely. That might change them. They'll start to think you're a good person!!
2007-03-11 17:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by imagine dragons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE ASSUMING GOING INTO THE GROUP AND JUST LISTEN YOU DONT HAVE TO TALK AT ALL AND IF YOU WANT TO GET YOUR POINT ACROSS THEN IM SIRE YOU WILL SAY SOMETHING AT THE RIGH TIME, SOMEONE TO TALK TO IS GOOD AT LEAST THEY SPEAK WITH YOU AND NOT PUTTING YOU DOWN, IF THEY CAN CONFIDE IN YOU, YOU ARE ALREADY A FRIEND!
2007-03-11 15:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how come you`r on level 0
and 0 points...after being here since october?
2007-03-11 15:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your the best,
tell them to phuckoff
2007-03-11 15:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by qwerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEXT
2007-03-11 17:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by taxed till i die,and then some. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋