My husb began acting strange a few months back. Caught him emailing a woman. Confronted her with an email and copied him on it and also confronted him face to face before he had a chance to read it. These two love birds had made plans to rendevous this coming summer. Of course when I had him pack his bags to kick him out he was all sorry and squeezed a tear out. It's all in my 360 page if you become a "friend" you can read it. All the emails I was able to print off and keep are there. Husb thinks we should move forward and work on solution not look at past. I'm still extremely p*ssed and cannot forget what he did. Not to mention the anxiety I have suffered. I want his online skank to pay, too. I have her email address, what should I do with it?
2007-03-11 08:15:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Welll..........heh heh heh. You could submit their email addresses to MLM spambots (basically they'll get totally clogged up (especially if their emails aren't yahoo) with THOUSANDS of emails.
You can go online to these internet dating services, and submit fake ads with their email addresses as contact info. Just make sure to be careful and use a library computer (because they keep track of the IP address)
You could also put their email addresses on mailing lists to porno sites.
The thing I used to do is, I wouldn't use email, I'd use mailing addresses and I'd go to the store, visit the magazine subscription rack and fill out all those 'bill me later' mag subscription post cards with their address on it.
Problem with using email address is, they can always get another one. Now, if you could hack into it, there is a lot more you can do. But that would be naughty, ha ha!
2007-03-12 13:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your husband did was wrong no doubt about that they have carried a sort of vertual relationship/friendship and believe it or not to him it was not really anything because they have never met but trust me what he did was just as if he had an affair in your eyes and many women.
At the moment you are hurt, angry and out for revenge which is normal under the curcumstances any women would want to hung draw and quarter both of them.
You are better than that my friend you have found him out so one point to you, you have confronted them both so another good point to you. It is your husband that wants to brush it under the carpet and not talk about it and move on and as difficult as this is unfortunatly a lot of men are like this.
He may not even know himself why an earth he did it and may never know. It was the thrill of the moments a secret a thrill something you or no one else knew about and now just like any affair it is out in open and no longer a secret or thrill.It is now facing reality for everyone.
Her I would email her and tell her that you know everything and that you and your husband are going to sort out your lives together and tell her to go away.Then delete her email and change his and yours simple to do.
As for you and your husband this is going to take a long time to rebuild your trust because he has shot that to pieces. It sounds as if he wants to stay with you so tell him you cant just put it under the carpet you both need to talk about what has gone on. he needs to know how hurt you are and betrained you feel and that you no longer trust him and he is going to have to work on that to prove you can trust him.
It is not going to happen over night and you may never be able to get to where you were with him before however it may just be an even stronger relationship than before or you may find you cant forgive and move on.
Do some talking not shouting remember he did not pysically cheat and he may not even know why he did it.
I will read your blog later you do have friends.
2007-03-11 21:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a thought from a guys point of view - agree with the others as far as she goes don't even bother with her. Unless of course she knew he was married then that is a different story.
But what about making him submissive to you? Since he seems to like to the idea of being dominated what about taking that role on yourself and making him act like a sissy or something emberass him in front of his friends he will stop then.
Also disconnect the internet.
Good luck
2007-03-12 09:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Firestorm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You know what. If your husband is sincere, I think he should show that by unplugging his f#*$&#*g computer and you lock it up somewhere and he can't ever use it again. I'd love to know if he goes for it. As for her, when the e-mails stop coming in because the computer is dead, that should be enough. I'm with you on this!! :)
2007-03-12 09:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with your husband. Don't concern yourself with her, at least not now. Anger is understandable but don't let it cloud your judgement. Your husband let lust get the best of him and you see where it got him.
2007-03-11 17:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For her, Women seeking women ads?
2007-03-13 16:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋