Am I Racist??????

Question

i am mixed but i never met my father and dont know the other half of my race and was raised by my grandmother whose parents were slaves as children -just to give to give u a lil history 2help you answer ....i dont have white or mexican friend outside of work -i DO NOT believe in inter-racial dating at all -growing up i was too black for white people and not black to black people i have been called racist names from blck ,mexican,and white people,,calling me racist black ,mexican or white names ,,they dont care what race i am i consider myself a black female and i just would never date outside of that and i hate to see people who do,,,bottom line is the dating i think its wrong ,,,,,,,,,,,,does that make me racist??

Answer 1

First up, you need to slap the color out of the beyotch that name you "lasonya".. At least it wasnt "Velveeta" If you consider yourself a black woman and your heritage supports it, then you ARE a black woman. There is no "degree" of blackness, it's about your heritage.

If you choose not to date outside of your own race, there is nothing racist about that. It only becomes racist when you try to suppress others who dont share your view from practicing their right to do so.

Answer 2

I don't think that not wishing to date out of your own race, or race you have adopted as your own, in your case, is racist in any form. You have the right to date whomever you wish, and if the only choice for you is a black man, then that is perfectly fine... not racist.

Now, as for your not wanting to see anyone else mix race in dating, that one may be viewed slightly harsher, but still does not make you racist, it just means you have strong values which you feel others should also have, and are disappointed when they do not. It can lean toward being a racist thought, but does not sound like the case with you.

Racism is hating someone for their color, thinking less of someone, that you are better than someone, that they deserve less than you because of the color of their skin. Racism is hate, pure and simple, and, at least from your post, you do not seem to be a hateful person, merely someone who has struggled with a few things growing up, and have a strong opinion of where you think you are now, and what you want.

As for not having a white or mexican friend outside of work... many people do not have certain ethnic friends, no matter what the ethnicity may be, because most people, outside of work, family, and long time friends... don't often get out to meet new and other people, aside from new neighbors. If you are not friends with them because you have never met any that were the type of person you would be a friend with... that is normal, not everyone meets my friend category either, but it is not due to race, but due to personality and morals. On the flip side, if you are not friends with them because of their race, and their race alone... that would make you a racist... so in the end, you yourself are the only one who can answer the question, I just hope I gave you a little something to help you when you think about it... Good luck :)

Answer 3

Racist is a really broad term. I wouldn't have said you were at all until I got to the part where you said you hated to see other people date outside of their race. That's a little "iffy". I do realize you have had a struggle being of mixed race, and I can see where you might feel like other children should not be born into the same. BUT... to "hate" something...
Realize, you are a product of both races and to hate one or the other is to hate a part of yourself. Racism stems from fear... and that's no way to live, for yourself. I am not saying that you are racist but if you think you might be, then address it for your own well-being. Life is too short to do anything but embrace its greatness, do not let the shallow aholes who put you down or rejected you, now rob you of what you are entitled to in life!
Best of luck to you...

Answer 4

NOT AT ALL.

You are free to date whoever you want. Some women want blue eyes or 6.2", you prefer colour.

I am white. My sister in law is black as heck. She has three kids. The oldest, black as blac, will only date white girls. The fairer the better

The daughter will only date black boys. She has settled with a guy who is almost blueblack and their baby is dark as dark.

The youngest child is mixed. (MY brother had adopted her children as his just to explain why her kids are dark). Due to a genetic problem from my side of the family he may never have kids but he dates all races.

My daughters are eurasian. They only date men who are intelligent enough to keep their brains going. They do not even see colour.

So baby, you are not racist. You are proud of who and what you are. I think socially it is fine to mix with all races. This is because we are all human and if we do not get to know others we lose out. But when it comes to choosing, it is your choice.

As my younger girl once said to me, "Mom, you know how terribly fussy I am about my shoes? Well the fit of a man is even more important that shoes, so of course I have standards." Not bad for a 20 year old. You keep to your standards, girl, BUT...

IF a WONDERFUL blonde man comes along and you feel sparks that consume you, explore it. Love is colourblind.

Answer 5

I don't think that makes you racist at all. I have friends of all races but do not belive in inter racial relationships. Its hard enough growing up and from what I have seen mixed race children have it harder ....sometimes not being excepted by either race that they are not fully of.

Answer 6

I think that everyone, whether they will admit it or not, is racist to some degree or it wouldn't still be an issue after all these long years. It is the superior person, however, who is aware of that inside themselves and chooses to rise above it.

If you don't agree with interracial dating, that is your choice. You have that right, you know, but what you should not do is be judgemental towards others who don't share your point of view - that only creates, and spreads, hatred.

Answer 7

I think you're confused as to what your racial identity is. Don't worry about other people dating outside of their race, it really has nothing to do with you. People will choose to do what they do and you need to chose what you're going to do. If you don't want to date anyone but a black man, that's fine. Go ahead. It's your preference. But other people are entitled to their preferences.

Answer 8

i dont thnk it makes u racst just because only date a certain race. it just sounds more like a matter of preference for you. i have family that thinks the same way about inter racial dating. i'm not sure i agree with them. i dont think they are racist tho.

Answer 9

Dating within your race is a preference for YOU, but when you worry about other people's preferences, whether they date within their race or otherwise, its prejudiced. I would not go as far as saying racist though. People use that word incorrectly sometimes.

Answer 10

Yes, if you think it's wrong that a black person and any person that is not black.. fall in love, you are racist.

(But that's your personal preference and you can't change that.)