I've never cheated. I am honest to my partner with no secrets. But I love thinking about the forbidden fruits. Is this normal?
2007-03-11 07:58:15 · 22 answers · asked by Swarm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're a man so yeah it's normal! It's your nature to check out other forbidden fruit! Don't be ashamed of it. My husband does it all the time, it doesn't bother me because I'm the one that he's sleeping with! :) Sometimes he makes comments outloud that should be kept to himself, but it's normal.
You sound like a great husband who is concerned about looking at other women. Don't worry about it, and most importantly, don't act on it! I know you won't though! Great question! Star for you! Good luck and your wife is a very lucky lady!
2007-03-11 14:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're probably normal. Checking out other women is not a problem... you're committed, not dead or blind.
Is it just checking out a good looking woman that passes by, or is it more than that? Are we talking elaborate, frequent fantasies of women you know? That's a bit more of a problem, because at that point you're drifting emotionally away from your partner. Not a physical affair, but possibly the start of an emotional affair. At that point, it's not too much further to acting on your thoughts.
Seeing a good looking woman and having your mind wander for a minute or two (damn, if I wasn't married...) type of thing is normal. As long as you remember that you ARE married (or committed) and leave it at that, you're safe.
2007-03-11 08:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will continue to see and admire or appreciate beautiful women for the rest of your life and your wife or girlfriend will continue to see, admire and appreciate hot, steamy, sexy men, even sexier than you as long as she lives.
That is where maturity comes in, you have to decide to be grown up about it and not give way to anything that will make your partner unhappy or spoil the happiness that you share with her.
And if you know you want to touch the forbidden fruit then there is no piont in staying with someone and making them unhappy, the world is out there for you to frolick up and down, from one disease-laden woman to another.
What you meditate on for a long time will soon take over you, catch yourself when you start drifting away and make a conscious effort to stay true to the comittment you have made. That's what being a REAL MAN is all about, controlling yourself
What you are doing in this process is training yourself so you will have to keep doing it, over and over until your mind gets used to disciplining itself, IMMATURE MEN do not want training of any kind but that's what being a REAL MAN is all about, controlling yourself.
2007-03-11 09:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal thing for men to feel and act this way. Even when a man is married,happy and all, they or he still look when a woman pass by. Fantasy someone brings how men sex drive is,not forbidden.
Do you know the women do also have that feelings, but we act more classy when looking at a man esp. if this man has nice built body and good looking, and that where we think how lucky the woman that he have,those are our fantasy. Men is more obvious than us............so don't worry about it,natural thing..........
2007-03-11 08:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a loving relationship, I have 3 children, and I am very very happy... And I am female lol! And I check guys out all the time! If there is something wrong with you then I will meet you at the support group lol!
2007-03-11 08:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by thesiphone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is as long as you do not act on the other feeling.You will always think of how it would be with another woman.There will always be a woman that will catch your eye,and you have to let it go just like the wind,and remember you have your good thang at home,so go home
2007-03-11 08:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your honest about it to partner and never touch the fruits, no.
2007-03-11 08:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal to check out other women and have an apprecaition for them. But why haven't you married the mother of your child? A lifelong commitment of being a parent doesn't scare you, but the lifelong commitment of being a husband does????
2007-03-11 08:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just human nature. But what counts is not that you check out other women but that you never cheat on the one you're with and you know & recognize that she's the one for you.
2007-03-11 08:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the works of the devil in your mind, I think.~~~~~
And if acted upon it could destroy your family.~~~~~
Normal to me, would be "you" focusing on the blessings you have at hand, things "you all" can do together to make that union even more rewarding & blessed. Cleanse your mind ! Much is wrong in our families today. Stand up for us~~~~Jill
2007-03-11 09:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋