So it is OK to cheat as long as nobody ever finds out?

Question

According to women.

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Answer 1

Apparently so... according to women.

Answer 2

Absolutely not. If you no longer wish to be in a marriage or committed relationship, have the courage to say so directly. You will always know that you cheated and therefore cheated yourself out of the chance to be a decent and caring human being. The person you cheated on may never ask but they will know on some level what you did. You will destroy on a soul level what you have with this person.

Instead, grow up and learn to have integrity and speak the truth about your feelings. Relationships cannot be expected to last forever. You choose each day to be with someone. When you no longer choose to be with them, at least have the courage to tell them your feelings have changed.

Answer 3

Well since my divorce my attitude and opinion on cheating is much different. I do not feel it is the righ thing as it undermines the closeness and openess you have with your partner. However my partner has cheated on me openly and following his indiscresion felt truly bad and has never done it again. We have an understanding if he wants another woman he has to bring her home. I do not have the sex drive he does, but get really hot and bothered by three somes.

I also do not feel that oral is cheating, and although I do not think he has ever gotten from other women, our relationship is too valuable to throw everything away over sex. There are houses, cars, children, and all kinds of property to throw it away over sex.

Answer 4

Nope - because you always know what you did, and have to live with the guilt and shame. And so does the person you cheated with. Once 2 people know something, it's no longer a secret, and the chances of it being found out are much higher.

Answer 5

"Cheating" is just another of dozens of kinds of dishonesty. So, what you're asking really is not confined to just marriage. You're basically asking,"Is it ok to be dishonest as long as nobody ever finds out?"

Each man and woman on Earth has to live with their own conscience.

Are you actually asking somebody else to justify dishonesty for you? Or what?

Or are you even serious at all?

Answer 6

There are things in this world that the deeper you dwell on, the worse it gets and the consequences are terrible. It's like are we really in the Middle East for democracy, anti-terrorism, or national (economic) interests? I doubt you will ever know the true answer, which may not be just one. But do you really want to dwell on this?

Answer 7

At the end of the day, you're the one who has to deal with the consequences. Be it a fading relationship, a pissed off partner, or your own guilt eating away at your soul.
Just don't do it, it's a double edge sword if they find out. If you tell them, there gonna be pissed. If you don't tell and they find out, there gonna be extra pissed because you didn't tell them.

Answer 8

No. That is not true. It just means your a bad person, who doesn't have the guts to do the right thing. (both men and women)

I know your trying to find a loophole, but really there isn't one. If you don't want to stay faithful to your wife just divorce her. Really, it is the right thing to do. For her sake and for yours, you will both be happier for it. I would rather have a husband who wanted to be with me than one who felt he HAD to stay with me.

Answer 9

no because some way or another the women is going to find out just like my ex cheated on me and i found out

Answer 10

No it's not OK to cheat, but if you did and it was over; what good would it do if you told your partner/spouse. It would only hurt them. You would only be doing it to relieve your own guilt, not for your partner/ spouse.

I would never want to know. What I don't know won't hurt me.