How many people out there had an affair? Were you able to save your marriage when you are always thinking about the other woman?
2007-03-11 07:34:47 · 8 answers · asked by Tigerous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't contribute to the destruction of the family.
There are so many problems out of our control.
Please control your lust and save the family life~~~~~~~Jill
2007-03-11 09:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont answer that you shouldnt had an affair cause you know this..so ...my question to you is why you had it? physical attraction or cause you never had the connection with your wife? you can save your marriage if you understand the root cause of the issue and talk to her about your needs to improve the relationship. You can also ask her to go to counseling together. If you do not want to do this or it hasnt work, and if you still can;t find back the feeling you have for the other women,then it is ok to start over. stop cheating,get divorce and live a respectful and peacful life with your new true love. it is hard to change,but it is worth !
2007-03-11 14:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't any excuse for having an affair as much as we'd like to justify it. I know I had an affair because of how I felt when I was with the other woman vs my wife. She made it very obvious how attractive she found me and was constantly after me. I liked the attention.
That being said. Eventually as all lies, this was found out by my wife. Not good. The pain and anguish of my betrayal was more than I would have ever wanted to inflict on her. Not worth it.
Bottom line I let myself go because of the attention instead of sharing my feelings "tactfully" with my wife. We remained married thankfully even thou it is never quite the same.
In regards to the other woman, yes I missed her. But by far I loved my wife more and was more preoccupied with trying to correct the wrong. There is a difference between passion and love, I chose love with hopes of bringing back the passion.
Bottom line...not worth it bud. Speak to your wife and see what you can work out. If there is just nothing there, then divorce, be free and see whoever you want.
Good luck!
2007-03-11 14:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by U812B4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair, but ended it because I realized it would destroy my family. I still love him very much but in the long run if I left my husband and kids for him he probably would have cheated on me. The affair was what I needed to realize my life was great just the way it was.
2007-03-11 19:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had an affair 3 months ago, saving our marriage? not sure on my end because he fell in love with this married woman as well, so will this will answer some of your question,...............I hope!
2007-03-11 15:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a affair. My ex left me unfulfilled emotionally and sexually. We attempted to make it work after the fact but the same issues kept coming up.
2007-03-11 15:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jill L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have NEVER and will NEVER have an affair.I have too much respect for both myself & my husband.....You don't deserve to be married you should be honest with your wife and let her go so that she can find someone that deserves her love & fedelity because you sure are NOT worthy of it....Shame on you.You are lower then pond scum and even that is speaking to highly for you...
2007-03-11 14:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it as handling company secret at work. Unless you are one of those who can't keep your mouth shut.
2007-03-11 14:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋