Am I a bad husband?....my wife needs to loose weight....?

Question

I feel that my wife needs to loose weight. As a result I am starting to look for love and affection elsewhere. I know that her weight is from the 4 babies that we have had, but I do not feel that this is an excuse....the excessive weight is such a turn-off. I keep telling her that she needs to look good for me, but that doesn't seem to work. Do you think that it would help if I were to let her catch me with someone else? Would that motivate her?

Answer 1

hahahahaahaha- maybe you can have sex with other women but it's not a good idea if she knows about it, just act less interested in her

Answer 2

If I was her and caught you with someone else...yeah that would motivate me.... motivate me to pick up the phone and call a locksmith to have the locks changed. It would motivate me to call a mover to come and get all of your things. And motivate me to call an attorney! Come on...did your vows have for better or worse in them? You should look at her now with weight and all and know she loved you so much to gain weight in order to provide you with 4 beautiful babies! You can remind her how beautiful she was when she was a certain size and tell her you were more attracted to her at that size or tell her you want to start exercising and dieting because you feel like you both need it (if you do diet/exercise together she might feel as if you are more understanding about her weight now because trust me she is aware without you telling her that she has gained the weight) ....but I would not do anything like being with someone else just to make her want to lose the weight.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

honestly being caught with another woman will make things way worse, before better. She might start emotionally eating to help comfort her thru ur actions. You say yall got children, I dont know their ages, but if possible use them to help get her active. Like get them to ask her to show them how to swim or go mini golf. And try to have her work out with either all of yall or at least her kids. women will go out of their way to keep their kids happy. Now I kinda had the same problem with my weight. But I was already scared that my hubby was gone try to find someone who was thinner, so I asked to hit the gym with him. So, what Im suggesting is that if your kids are too young, you have got to get her into some activity. And keep it real, i will be a lil difficult at first, but stick with it and get here started slowly, just dont let here stop completely.
If that doesnt work, which it will probly help a little, then verbally threaten to be active (sports not sexually) with a smaller woman with your children being active with you and the other woman. Then that should fix it. No you are not a bad husband for wanting your wife to stay healthy.

Answer 5

Yeah you are a bad husband.. you never cheat on your wife.. even if she need to loose a few... I mean.. if you love her you would think that is the most beautiful thing in the world whether she has had 4 kids or not... you just don't cheat on her... .. the only thing your gonna succeed in that whole is this hurting her.. breaking her heart.. and prolly loseing her forever... it would only motivate her to a divorce.... lord... you need to stop and thing before trying to find any elsewhere love...

Answer 6

oh my god now i know why there are lesbians in this world! she should no way lose weight for you! don't be so shallow... she should lose weight for her, and her only! what kind of boyfriend are you saying that she should lose weight for you because you find her a turn off, you obviously dont love her at all. if you did love her then you would find her attractive no matter what, you sound the sort of person where if she had an accident and was left scared for life you would dump her because she didnt look pretty enough for you.... you need to take a good look in the mirror

Answer 7

OMG Are you really that shallow? That woman gave you 4 children and you don't think that is an excuse to be heavy? Let me see you gain 60 lbs for each baby and push a golf ball out of your penis.

Trust me if you cheat with getting caught in mind, her response should be to kick your butt to the curb and hire a good attorney.

Now, if you really want to help her...buy her a deluxe gym membership and tell her you will watch the kids 5 days a week while she uses it.

Answer 8

Sounds like the 4 kids are just an excuse for her to put on weight and get all frumpy. There's plenty of women out there that've had kids and still take care of themselves enough to look hot. Seems to me that she's gotten complacent because she has her man, kids, etc., and doesn't feel she needs to put any effort into looking good. Maybe a little action on the side would make her realize that the lack of effort on her part isn't gonna maintain her ideal lifestyle.

Answer 9

Now she has had your kids and put on some weight.She was looking good enought for you too have four kids together.If you want to help,then do things to help her.Sounds like you have seen a woman or too and you want to cheat and you need a reason to justify it.Be a man and keep your wife and kids together,you may never find a woman as good as she is,then what would you do besides looking like a fool.

Answer 10

That would motivate her alright ... motivate her to get rid of you fast ... Why does her weight bother you so much? If you love her you should love her as she is ... Mother of your four children ... you would risk ruining your family because your wife got a little chubby? that's horrible ... if you want to motivate her to lose some weight then offer to work out with her, or go for walks with her ... go food shopping with her and suggest healthier food choices ... with four kids in the house it must be hard for her to eat healthy and work out ... you should be appreciating her not looking to cheat on her ...

Answer 11

You must be careful of your approach with her, since you and I both know it is a 'turn off' to you for her to be heavy maybe you should take the "health" issue to motivate. You really do not want her to catch you with someone else!! This can destroy her you do not want that. Offer to diet with her, make it fun. See if this helps and remember its harder and harder as women get older to lose weight. Good luck to you!!