My friend has said she'll call me back tons of times, and she never did, so i caved and always called her the day after and she would say, sorrry i...so and so! Now its been almost a week do i call her and tell my thoughts about her not calling me back, or just wait for her to call!!!!! She promised to call me back to....!!!!!
2007-03-11 07:24:25 · 21 answers · asked by Lindsayyy ツ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't cave in again. It is all really just a game that we play, who is going to call whom first. If you talk to her besides on the telephone, talk to her about the situation. It could be that she simply forgot about it... but now would be a good time to clear the air, and find out just how much each of you values your friendship. If you find out thats he doesn't value it as much as you do, perhaps you are investing too much in it yourself. But talk to her, find out where each of you stands, and then go from there. And you can still be friends without calling each other every day or week. I have friends that i talk to maybe every 6 months, unless there is a big occassion for either of us. :) Keep your chin up, it will turn out alright!
2007-03-11 07:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the exact same problem. Just wait for her to call you. And when she does just tell her what you are feeling about her never keeping her word about calling. Tell her you are tired of being treated like that and it's just not a nice thing to do to your friends. Hopefully she will understand. If not, maybe you will just drift apart, that is what happened to me, but in the end its ok, you end up with true friends.
2007-03-11 14:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by aly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship isn't always easily described. The Eskimos, they say, have a hundred different words for snow. Unfortunately, the English language isn't quite as innovative, though it has vast opportunities to differentiate meaning. Certainly, Love is one of those opportunities. And so, too, is Friendship.
Instead of different words, however, we're stuck with simple adjectives. Close friend. Best friend. Childhood friend. Intimate friend. Trusted friend. Beloved friend. But whether you use adjectives or different words, few could deny the nearly infinite meaning in such a simple word.
Friends are special people. We can't pick our family, and we're sorely limited in the number of them at any rate. Society and mores (and often our own conscience) dictate we select a single mate. But our friends can be as diverse and infinite as the adjectives we choose. Our friends, in a very real sense, reflect the choices we make in life
2007-03-11 16:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by ogopasana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one don't always believe someone when they say that they're going to call you back. They never wind up doin' it any way. Never call tehm back more than twice. The more you call the more you make yourself look desperate. Thats not good either. If they want to talk they'll call you. Other than that don't call them unless you need to tell them something important.
2007-03-11 15:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Briann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless something honestly came up as to why she couldn't call you...she seems rather flaky and that doesn't make for a good friend at all...try to talk to her and let her know that you feel like you're being ignored...if she doesn't really have a good explanation then you might wanna start looking for a new friend.
2007-03-11 14:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends usually take time to call each other back as they say they will do. For some reason, your friend is acting like she does not really want to talk or take time to call. Maybe she is not rude when you call her, but really does not want to call you. I do think you should ask her why you respect her enough to call her, but she does not respect you enough to call you when she says she will. You have a right to know why she is doing this.
2007-03-11 14:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by zack 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something like this happened to me with a friend a long time ago.
When I asked her why she didn't call and didn't want to hang out anymore she just said," You don't interest me at all."
So...from this very hurtful experience, I think what I would like to advise you is to step back and to just let it be.
You sound like a very nice and caring person. You deserve a friend who is also nice and caring towards you.
2007-03-11 14:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call again and when she does call back tell her you understand she must have been real busy since she didn't have time to call you back. then tell your you are in the middle of something and will call her back. when she doesn't hear back from you, she will call you again. if not then she has been trying to avoid you for some reason
2007-03-11 14:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All that you need to tell her is that she has been telling you that she will be calling, but never does. Just tell her not to tell you she is going to call unless she really means it.
Its like the story with the boy who cried wolf.
2007-03-11 14:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by I am Noodles! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't call others back. I'm one of them--it doesn't mean I don't like my friends, it just means I'm terrible about returning phone calls. :) Remember that phone calls go both ways--if you find yourself wanting to talk to your friend, give her a call. It's possible your friend simply acts this way as a way of reaffirming to herself that she does indeed have friends--after all, having people call her obviously means people like her.
Try not to take it personally.
2007-03-11 14:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋