How can I tell if I am depressed, I guess I ask my self this question every day?

Question

I may just need someone to talk to that may be going thru the same thing I am. My husband and I are not getting along at all and I just started a new job he wants me to quit because he cannot handle our two children. We just will NOT make it off our income and I think I find myself hating him more and more everyday and I am getting meaner and meaner to everyone. Please send me some advice!!!!!

Answer 1

Money problems, work problems, difference in parenting styles- these are normal marriage issues.


Are you depressed? Do you have no energy? Do you hate yourself? Do you think of suicide? Are you ever able to be happy? Are you able to do normal household tasks (brushing your teeth, doing the laundry, etc).

I know once you are in the funk of depression or anger it's difficult to get out. It's difficult to interact with your children and your husband.

You need to seek solutions to your problems. Lay out a list of what NEEDS to happen for you to meet your financial goals. Do the same for the children and household chores and most importantly- getting your marriage back on track. Do you need time to yourselves? Do you need counseling? Do you need to share something intellectually again?

Answer 2

Depression comes in many forms and no two people are alike when they are depressed. I think the biggest word to sum up depression is "LACK" or lack of. It's a lack of feeling, or desire not just for yourself but for others too. You lack the ability to be happy or make others happy around you. You lack stamina, seems your tired all the time, not the yawning sleepy tired but the worn out clear to the bone tired. Where some lack in sleeping at night or all night, others sleep all the time, not wishing to face the new day. You lack reasoning problems out or finding solutions to everyday simple things. What you have described as your problem sounds more like your overwhelmed more than anything else. Money is the number one problem with most couples so the new job in itself may very well be the cause for your irritablilty compounded with your husbands inability to help with "his" own children. You need to sit down, talk, make a few suggestions on how to deal with the kids in your absence, let them all know that your job is very important, not just to you but to them also for the income needed to run the household. Compromise on some issues but stand firm in your desire to work outside the home. It may take a few talks to get it on the right track but for your own sanity sometimes a little thing called "tough love" is needed to set things right.

Answer 3

If you can't do activities of daily living...cooking, cleaning, grooming...you may be depressed. But there's a diffrence between being depressed and just plain ole pissed off.....I truly understand where you are coming from.....and at first you want someone to talk to....to first see your side of things, then to tell you that if you really love your husband then work it out so you can try again with the idiot. but the truth is....you are looking for an excuse to continue to deal with the petty lil bull *%#@. And everyday...you look at that sorry bastard odf a husband and wish that you could just click your heels and go back where you came from. Honey, let me tell you...i'm rockin in that same boat, but i tell you this...you keep your job, so what he feels overwhelmed with the kids. now he knows how you feel. he wants you to quit to keep control or should i say a leash on you. My husband is the same way..selfish, lazy, inconsiderate, mean, and everything else i could think of. sometimes..i want to stay so my six month old baby will grow up with two parents, but i thinnk i would be doing him a lot more justice to get on now then to wait till he gets of some age and see how much me and his dad hate each other. It;s a damn shame....that men...are so ignorant sometimes.

Answer 4

Your company insurance may cover you to see a psychiatrist to see if you are clinically depressed, which is hormone related. There is medication for that. But suitable exercise (and good sex) also increases the hormone that (the lack of it) causes depression. Medication is not the best way. Clinical depression is a medical condition.

Mental anguish is not necessarily depression. But it is a self-fulfilling mission. If you think you are depressed, you will drive yourself into this blackhole. It is about you as a person. It is easy to lay it on others but you will find there is no satisfaction in it and no real solutions ever emerge. Two wrongs don't ever make a right. Improve yourself as a person first and you can deal with all matters in a rational manner.

Answer 5

you two really need to sit down and have a good long talk, you must reason with him, about the need for you to do this job, because of the salary, but you must allow him to tell you about what is troubling him.
Dont hate him, and no you are not unusual, but TALK to each other dont yell.
Good luck

Answer 6

You should go to the doctor they can help