child custody????

Question

hello,
well last sunday my ex and i were in an arguement and he said that i was an unfit mother and my family were slobs and that if i droped her off i would never see her again???? so i didn't drop her off...and no i don't believe in keeping my kids from their father but i am not going to risk not seeing her again....also i live in missouri and if he keeps her they would leave her there due to there is no custody case that says who is the sole guardian of her....i put child support on him and we were not married so dna has to be proven....i set up a visitation with him and his mother so he could see her for this thursday for 2 hours due to me and his mother having to work in the evening....am i being wrong about this situation?????he could not afford her and her medical bills plus every thing else that goes w/a 3 yr.old in a 4 yr.old body....that is why i didn't put childsupport on him prior to this situation....any advise will help greatly....thank you

i mean my daught that is 3 sorry for putting her

Answer 1

if you have NO visitation COURT ORDER set up as of right now and he has threatened you would never see her i would be on the phone with a lawyer ASAP explain to them that he is making these threats!! Right now you dont HAVE to let him see her at all if his allegations of your family being slobs etc are true though he can go to court with that information and they WILL come out and look at the conditions your child is living in unforunately custody disputes can become a nasty thing and it may come down to you having to go after SUPERVISED visitation for him meaning you meet in a public place such as a mcdonalds with a play place a few hours a week for him to see her so that he cant just up and take her .... I have total custody of my daughter and my ex has no ruled visitation due to a situation where he was living out of state, not even calling her for 3 years let alone making any effort to support her However he moved back to our city 4 years ago and i allow her to go see him because its not right to keep a child from their biological parents he may still irritate me at times but he also knows she at the age now where she realizes when hes blowing her off and she ll call hijm on it.... it all depends on whether hes willing to own up and be a real daddy who doesnt make threats like taking a kid from their mom

Answer 2

Let someone know (like your lawyer) or the police, give them a heads up to the situation because even if he was bluffing it could turn into a messy situation. and let him know that you will go after him if he takes your children and that its not something to use to get back at you. What i mean by that is just because he does not approve of you and he is angry with you is NO reason to threaten to take your children away from you, he shouldnt bring the kids into your arguements ever. You were right not to bring her to meet him after he said that, just play it safe and try to keep a level head..

Answer 3

you need to get real who care if he can afford the up keep of the child its his responsibly as a father also you need to file for full custody so he cant play game with your child he can see her but you set the rule good luck

Answer 4

Make an appointment with an attorney. That is my best advise to you.

Answer 5

Question is too long. And I don't get it.