Had an affair with a 24 year old, I am 35.I fell out of love with my wife and am not attracted to her. Will it ever be the same again?
2007-03-11 07:18:33 · 20 answers · asked by Tigerous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. This is unfortunate.
Have you talked to her about this? Does she need to lose weight or is it her personality you find unappealing?
It's possible the 24yr old paid a lot of attention to you and showed you the affection and attention that comes with a new relationship. Perhaps it is only that you are craving.
I suggest if you want to keep the marriage and are truely committed to your wife you need to come clean and seek counseling.
2007-03-11 07:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about husband and wife stuff, but I dated a guy a few years ago and I'm attracted to him again. Funny thing is, he's not physically attractive at all, but I adore him to pieces. his personality makes him gorgeous. You should try wining and dining her. What's something you did when you were just in the dating phase? Maybe bring her to a place you haven't been since before you got married. Maybe she's used to seeing you all the time, so she got bored.... hate to say it, but if you see something all the time, you kinda get over it. I used to think my roommate was the hottest girl ever, now that I see her every day, she's not that gorgeous. Same thing goes for my boyfriend. I think he's very attractive, but I don't see him every day. So when I do see him, I savor in every moment and he's just as attractive as he was the last time I saw him, if not more.... ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER! ...I would go away for a few days with the guys. Come back and do something different with your hair or try a new style. Surprise her with a different look on you.
2016-03-29 00:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, apparently your girlfriend must have dumped you? Was the sex goood or was it just better than what you were use to at home? Sounds like a passion was lit within you and your afraid to try NEW things on your wife. Who knows MAYBE she might let loose a tiger within her if you use your imagination long enough or did you LOVE the other woman and can't get her out of your mind? If that's the case, better get you an apartment and start doing alot of soul searching before you get into another relationship. I hope that helps some. Stay sweet. I feel sooo sad thats theres so many judgemental people who read other peoples hurts and throw rocks at them instead of helping. If you haven't walked in their shoes they should keep their opinions to themselves.
2007-03-11 15:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend time with her, play with her, talk to her. There is a reason you chose her, and its there buried. When you have an affair, the experience burns you and then your wife has unfair competition in your mind...you might want her to do things the other girl did, dress like she did. Thats unfair, a marriage merges real life and the romantic stuff in a way that a mistress doesn't have to deal with. Give it time, energy, do nice things for her and get to know her all over again
2007-03-11 07:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends, do you keep thinking about other woman instead of your wife? I had an affair as well, and my husband and i are no longer together. I left. Have you tried anything new with your wife in bed?
2007-03-11 07:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by grumpyme2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up you made a bad choice and now your asking should I, could I, will I, for the sake of trying to find a way out already.
If you want to leave your wife then leave her, a real man will find her and sweep her off her feet and then she will be finally loved the way she should be.
2007-03-11 07:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to look at all the good things about her and nurture and love those good things within yourself. Many people don't realize that loving someone is completely of our own creation in our mind of who that person is.
So, only you are capable of loving her, hating her or being indifferent.
2007-03-11 07:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by observing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in that case it could change but it is up to you if you still love her the same way. Maybe it change too so you guys shoul work it out. if you dont think the marriage is working then you should go seperate ways. But try and work things out.
good luck.
2007-03-11 07:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by honeyy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its all about what your belief's are, but how shallow u are and your love is conditional. its really hard for us old gals to compete with younger, thinner and prettier, when the husband wants that. your not being fair to your wife, if u have no feelings for her set her free to go out and find love elsewhere.
2007-03-11 07:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no way I'm sorry just like you, your wife might not like you either she probably cheated along time ago...with some young dude about 21 years old and she loved it, you guys should just divorce. now she go be a milf
2007-03-11 07:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.Copeland 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋