ive been married for almost 2yrs but inlight of the recent events we wont make it to our anniversery. . .4-23. what happens next? i did not get married so i can be alone. . .how could he do this to our family? i know he says he doesnt love me anymore. . .and wants to take some time apart to find out if he will eventually be attracted to me again. . . .but what do i do ? do i wait for him or do i move on and try to forget about him? will there ever be somebody who treats me the way i desreve to be?
2007-03-11 07:15:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you didn't mention children, that is important for us to know before we answer!
2007-03-11 07:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby came out and said he doesnt love you no more, prepare to be gone ASAP and dont dare set yourself up to be hurt and confused anymore than you already are. Yes I think there are times that couples may need time apart to sort things out, but if he said the love is gone, then do the smart thing and prepare to get over the pain NOW so that by April 2008 you can be into another lifestyle, before you look up 3 more yrs roll around and you're still feeling unwanted.
Yall got married the day after me. Im currently separated on military orders.
2007-03-11 07:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by ni-ni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ! i am so sorry to hear that you are going thru this. This is though, as when we decide to marry is cause we believe is going to be forever. You love him,but unfortunately, things like this happen. i have read a lot cause i also lived a situation similar like this. the advise i got are here: 1) things happen for a reason .you must learn from it or get something even better out of it or get closer to God 2) you cant control him,but you can control yourself. love yourself,cause he only cares about him now 3) when we are not putting pressure,they think better and he might come back if it is for good 4) everybody deserves to be loved. you are unique. love yourself,cause this is the thing that attracts people to you as friends or something else. Anxiety and ovethinking are the worst things ! go out and enjoy this time off ( in a respectful way ), that will make him go nuts ! ;)
2007-03-11 07:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this. You need to be strong, and don't get down on yourself. This is your hubby's issue. When you deal with him, don't get emotional (though I know how hard that is). Just tell him that you hope he becomes the man he wants to become, wish him all the luck and happiness in the world, and that you hope he finds what he is looking for. If you beg, or cry, it will show a neediness and desparation that he will use, and it gives him permission to step all over you and still know you will be there. You are ina tough spot, stand tall and take care.
2007-03-11 07:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be his puppet. don't wait around for him to "possibly be attracted to you again", that is a bunch of b.s. Move on girl, and count your blessings- at least its only been 3 years and not 10. good luck!
2007-03-11 07:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and move one. Why wait for a 2 timing loser @sshole unless you are one too.
2007-03-11 08:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello... life life.... things of the life
one day we are on top and other in bass... but we cannot let to take us for the moments bad of the life.... we have to try to overcome everything... the life is not summarized to the love... the love is part of the life... for that to try to take your life... you cannot be to depend on him, that and bad... if he likes truth of you won't he want to stand back of you... but before any decision you do have to talk a lot with him, who knows they can solve?..... but it tries to take your life
but you have to know of something always..... EVERYTHING THAT HAS BEGIN HAS An END
NOTHING LASTS FOREVER, JUST THE NECESSARY TIME TO BE A MAYOR
steay cool
2007-03-11 07:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by smack_world 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go he said he doesn't love you divorce him there's some one out there that will treat you like you deserve don't rush into another relationship date when your free
2007-03-11 07:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him, but slightly nudge, him as well.
Ask him to go to counseling with you, and try and save your marriage.
2007-03-11 07:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on very fast....do not wait for him...he does not deserve someone like you
2007-03-11 07:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋