In order for me to feel orgasmic pleasure, I have to be played with by the clitorus. And its driving me and my partner nuts that we cant have an orgasm together, its driven me nuts years before all this, but now its gotten me feeling insecure. Please help me figure out what i can do to have an orgasm during sex. We have already done everything in the book as far as foreplay. I just dont have the sensation your suppose to feel while making love.
2007-03-11 07:06:39 · 4 answers · asked by grumpyme2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay, first let go of the idea that you have to orgasm together. You are two separate people participating in an act together. Second, clitoral stimulation is important, just think, your guy couldn't reach orgasm without penile stimulation, right? Relax, enjoy just being together and don't set rules for sex, except that you make time for it. If you take time to relax first, you will be more aware of what you are feeling. Don't worry about using external stim, do what you need to to feel good.
Try a position that allows for clitoral stimulation, like you on your back and him on his side. This is very intimate.
2007-03-11 07:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by DisIllusioned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through exactly the same thing. That's why I signed up for Yahoo Answers tonight, actually. HELP?!
I know I can bring myself t orgasm through masturbation, so usually as "foreplay", because I cannot orgasm through intercourse, I let my boyfriend play with my clitoris until I hit orgasm. Then, we have sex so that HE can orgasm. I enjoy sex very much, but I don't feel anywhere near climactic - ever. It makes me so upset. I enjoy the closeness and the passion... but I feel like I must have a "g-spot", right? So - where is it? Isn't there some kind of position that will hit it so I can 'come' with him during sex?
This is the man that I love and want to be with forever and I wish I could climax when we make love.
Any advice?
2007-03-15 04:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by VocalistNYC1025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual satisfaction is a two way street .... If you have tried all forms of fore play ....you do not mention if there was any success or arousal .... If you can achieve orgasms through clitoral stimulation than you can have an orgasms with intercourse.... there is not much more I can say on here but please feel free to contact me and I am sure that I can help you and your lover achieve what you are looking for....
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2007-03-11 14:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by ccseg2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clitoris stimulation is the only way for women to have orgasms. Sex stimulates the clitoris but not that much so it takes a while. Try fingering yourself or have your partner finger you during sex. You might want to have him get you close to orgasm and when you are fairly close to having and orgasm he can enter you.
2007-03-13 20:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by quizzical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋