Are you unhappily married? What's the reason for this in today's modern world, why do u stay in your marriage

Question

Um....if unhappily married people ONLY could please answer this...thanks!

Answer 1

Have kids, then you're stuck

Answer 2

I'm happily married, so not sure how well I can answer this!
People stay in unhappy marriages for lots of different reasons - a lot because they feel they've made a commitment, and should stick with it. Because they believe in the vows that they took, for better or worse. Because they love their spouse. Or, because of financial reasons, or for the kids. The sad part is, as long as both partners are willing to put some effort into it, a marriage doesn't have to be unhappy. Most marriages have the potential to be happy, but the partners aren't willing to work hard enough to get there. They assume if they're not happy now, they should just give up and move on.

Answer 3

I have been trying to get divorced for two years and some change. I stayed mostly because I was scared of not being able to survive on my own. Since we have kids, we have a non-stop custody battle. It wasn't until after we finally seperated, that I found out I can make my own decisions again. I didn't need to have his permission to do anything. To visit family or old friends I haven't seen in a couple of years. He still tries to use the kids to control me. I've tried not to. Sometimes it works. Especially when I can't find a lawyer to stick up for me in court. Being called dumb or stupid..or being laughed at, it isn't fun. When you feel like the only reason you are having sex with your husband is just to try and keep him, is it really worth staying for!? The fear of the unknown!? I know that a lot of people say, "If I had known then what I know now...." I would have left a long long time ago. That is true. I would have!! Some couples are unhappy, because they lose themselves in the marriage. They go into marriage thinking that it will be a piece of cake. Not thinking that they have to work at it. Or like my ex...he didn't like the responsibility of paying bills. He wanted to play like he use to. And blamed everything else on me. It was all my fault. I guess he shouldn't have taken the responsibility away from me. But then, he wouldn't have the money to other things.

Answer 4

There are many reasons a person can be "unhappily married", and some of them are nothing more than psychological nonsense. People often feel that they deserve something "more", something more wild and exciting, more romantic...but often these feelings come up when they are bored, and look around and see a wild and exciting world that doesn't really exist, but they feel they are missing out on. Torn down to its most basic level, people should take a good hard look at themselves, their spouses, their children and their lives and begin to appreciate the good things they have.....many of the questions posed right in this very forum are from people who talked themselves into feeling bad, and then made it far worse.

Answer 5

Nope. I am very happy in my marriage. We have been dating for 3 years, engaged for 2 years and we've been married for 1 year this April 1st. I've never been happier. I think the reason people have trouble in there marriages would be because no one talks anymore. Everyone just fights, says the worst things they can think of. My husband and I, we talk about what is bothering us. We are very open with each other. We keep nothing from each other. I'm not saying we don't fight. because we have our fights, good one's too, But. We don't get into it and say awful things that we know we will regret later. We say what we need to say, talk about it and explain why we were pist off.

Answer 6

I really like this question! This weekend I've been struggling, yet again, in my marriage.

As I was about to respond to your question with my experience (negative) I stopped to read "Paul's" response about people getting bored and starting to look around at other people who appear to be having a better time.

Paul is totally right. Past failed relationships in my life prove it. My first major relationship ended when I got bored and thought I needed a change. I got this into my head and started to hang out with a party crazed group of men and women. The excitement of the moment distracted me from the boredom of the daily grind of the long distance, stable relationship I was blessed with. In hindsight, I regret my impulsivity. Talk is cheap though. Here I am, four relationships later and in a marriage now, and while I hesitate to say I'm bored, I do often look at my husband and compare him to other men who either are "more romantic", "more caring," or more whatever it is I'm obsessed about.

It's healthier to accept reality and live in the here and now.

Answer 7

i'm UNhappily married because of a law that says i can't serve my cheating husband, who is in the military, papers while serving on active duty, i have to wait until he returns home--which isn't until sometime in november

Answer 8

I'm actually quite happy. I live the good life because I have financial stability, have a hot wife, live in a great neighborhood with lots of perks.

She gives me the greatest hot sex ever equal to that of porn starts or better. And my skills in the sac have grown tremendously since I've been with her. So much in fact, that I want to really test out these skills on different chicks.

But we're going to fix that soon. Not with divorce though because that is a stupid route to take.

Answer 9

Happily married.

Answer 10

No, totally happy. Tough times like everyone else, but we make sure we get through them.

Answer 11

I'm seprated because of abuse it's been over a year