Is it a human experience to fight self?

Question

What do you do when you meet your "self"

Answer 1

You have to find out what it is in life you want then assess what you have and what you need then strive to obtain these goals. Nothing is impossible if you want it bad enough.

Answer 2

You say, hello.. Where the hell have you been all this time! It is human experience to fight self, because we as a society try to be everything else but "self" Once we accept who we are, let go of "ego" and learn to love "self" then nothing of what anyone says or does matters, because you have only you to validate "self"... when you love yourself, without condition you love all in the world... this is hard to do, but it is possible. You must have great suffering to know great joy. If you experience all the suffering there is, will you only know joy? Or is suffering only insecurity and every time we suffer it is our own fault. So fight your "self" and you will never win...so why do it... but why to you want to win? When the race is over, you will see that the only person you were racing with was you.

Answer 3

There is a higher self and a lower self. We all have to look out for ourselves, but it's easy to take it too far and fall into pure selfishness. I think the world today, especially the USA, is geared towards a very selfish perspective. All good things in the world start with those who put others before themselves, and all evil things start with people who put their desires before the needs of others. If someone does for others but only does so because they want credit for it, well, they are doing it for the wrong reasons--it should be done just because it's right. I know my higher self and my lower self are constantly fighting.

Answer 4

Great Question! In psychology this is known as "ego dystonic". In other words when an act or thought is inconsistent with our personal sense of self or belief system, a kind of "psychic tension" is created. The choice then becomes:
A. Do I incorporate this into my map of me?; or,
B. Do I remain consistent with what I believe to be true?

Option A doesn't take much energy or thought, while Option B can often be a challenge because we have to be conscious of our thoughts and actions; and, in the case of a "dystonic" action(s), clean up the mess.

As a therapist, it is my expereince that a good majority of the time, Option A is the preferred method, and it leads to a lack of personal responsibility for actions. This then leads to a lot of depression, anxiety, unhapiness, etc.

Option B, on the other hand, calls us to be mindful of who we are, and what we stand for; and, to remain consisten with our sense of self. It takes effort and can be challengng at times, however; my expereince is that it leads to a greater sense of inner peace in the long run.

So, If you "meet" your "self", celebrate it. If there is something that needs rethinking or changing, take the effort and make the change. In the end, we are all human, which means we will make mistakes. It also means we will have our share of success.

As Shakesphere said, "To thine own self be true."

The struggle is worth it -- it is exactly what makes us human.

Answer 5

Well, my human experience certainly has been that of fighting myself. I'm expecting a book by Karen Horney, "Our Inner Conflicts: A Constructive Theory of Neurosis," from Amazon.com early this week.

I take it that you mean to become one with the self when you are referring to the meeting of your "self." I've always struggled with balance and integrating all the various parts of myself into a complete package. I take things 24 hours at a time and allow God do for me what I cannot do for myself.

Answer 6

NO, for self is you and fighting it is fir\ghting against yourself.

I am a follower of Christ and he taught that the two greastest commandments are: Love the Lord your God with al your heart and all your mind and all your soul and all your strength and
love your neighbour as yourself.
Now many people only focus the fisr part of the second comandment -love thy neigbhbour- and fail to see the more important part - as thyself!
For if one cannot love him or herself, how on earth will you be able to love anybody else?

No, I say, discover self. Get to know yourself. embrace yourself and LOVE yourself. For only then can you love God ando others. You will soon realise that self consists of two parallel parts ; good and bad. These two parts make up the self.
However, and here lies the crux for me - one has been granted an oppurtunity to choose what one wants to be. One can either allow the bad/negative in you to be the dominant factor or one can choose good [which in my opinion can only come through Christ] to be the dominant characteristic trait of one's life.
I suppose we do not like everything about self, for without God it is a rotten thing. But I do believe that I discover a lot about myself each day and also learn to know myself from and by the way I react in different situations in a day.

Maybe this will sound extremely weird: I do not allow self to determine who I am; i determine who self will be!

Perhaps you can read Galatians 5 in the New Testament of the Bible who speaks with authority on this subject?

Answer 7

Its is the human goal to be at peace with one's self.

Answer 8

i believe that it is a very human experience to fight, accept, argue, deny, feed, build-up and otherwise just about anything else you can think of with your 'self'...as to the other part of your question...i often treat mine 'self' to dinner and a movie... this seems to keep him satiated...

Answer 9

Fighting the "self" is a spiritual battle, overcoming base urges
In Islam, fighting the self is what true jihad is all about.

Answer 10

yes you fight with human experience all the time it called spiritual battle, when you fight against good and evil, and therfore you fight good and evil, and you fight yourself did you do the right thing. the answer is yes more than likely.