telling you they have arrested your 15yr old son for joyriding in a stolen car! How will you punish your son for this?
personally i prefer to use shock tactics and would want my son to spend a night behind bars and spend a night observing in the hospitals accident & emergency unit, to show him what could have happened to him or some innocent victim !
how would you deal with it
& with what punishment??
2007-03-11 06:48:19 · 53 answers · asked by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
thanks to all, i just want to point out it was just a hyperthetical Q and i dont have a son that has done this, i have 2 daughters 10 and 2 !
2007-03-11 07:04:23 · update #1
I am a police officer and I have had to make this phone call. Most parent's reactions are shock and disbelief. Some are like you and want their son (or daughter) to experience the full meal deal but unfortunately too many react with threats or a lawyer should anything bad happen to their kid. Know what? There is nothing that we are going to do that could come close to what could have happened to them while they joyriding around in that stolen vehicle. More parents need to understand that and I thank you for being one of those that does.
2007-03-11 08:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by patti duke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it may just be one of those things that youngsters do in the process of growing up.
I believe you should allow him to discover his own folly by letting him spend the night behind bars. That way he will learn first hand the consequences of what he did.
However wen he comes out the most important thing to do is to talk with him. Dont punish him, shout, yell or do anything of the sort. let him know of the life long consequences of having a police record and the what negative impact it could have on his career and future life.
If you manage to convince him, it will beone of the great victories of yors as a parent.
Best of Luck and Happy Parenting! May God Bless you all!
2007-03-11 06:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a softy ! I received that phone call on the first day of summer vacation a few years back. My son spent his whole summer in the detention home . I got him released the day before school started. He did not hate me . He got straight A's that year . To date he has done nothing remotely against the law ! He is now 34 married with a good job and 4 kids and a paid for house. Lesson learned.
2007-03-11 06:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the jail that he's in will allow it then yes leave him in there overnight at least. Have a serious talk with him (which I'm sure you already have) then ground him, take away most of his privleges (I.E. computer, television, games, etc.) and have him do chores around the house for awhile. That's what my parents did to me when I was under 18 and something kind of similar happened to me. Needless to say I try to stay on the right path to this day. Jail sucks, even if it's just overnight.
2007-03-11 06:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by guitardan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Sisters son got arrested twice in one week, and he's only 15 years old, and this is what she did, keep his butt out of school for about 2 or 3 days, and on the first day! Whoop That @ss real good the way mom used to do us,that's what he needs.better to do that then to have a dead son because he could very well kill himself........
2007-03-11 07:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make him spend a night or two in juvie. Then, if you want him to see the possible outcomes of his action, log onto youtube.com or a video search engine, and show him. I wouldn't take him to the hospital to see that, it may teach him not to do it in the future, but the hospitalized aren't there for punishment. Also, we just went over punishment and reinforcement in my psychology course, so negative punishment (taking things away as punishment, such as grounding) is just as, if not less affective and positive punishment (adding things as punishment such as chores.)
2007-03-11 06:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by browneyesoxx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 years of age, he should be responsible and face the consequences of his actions. I would not cushion him too much. I'd trust the police to handle the case without your quick intervention. A stay in jail is a good thing for him.
The consequences should be a logical outcome of his actions. He needs to compensate you, the victim of the car theft, and the community at large. He should apologize to everyone.
2007-03-11 06:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Skeptic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your point of view and your punishment.
If I'm in your shoe, I would send him to jail for at least a month instead of a day, and I won't allow him to have any driving license or driving until he's at least 21 or older. If I find out that he drives before 21 or older, I would disconnect all relationships with him.
2007-03-11 06:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a night or 2 in the cells. And a 3 year grounding
2007-03-11 06:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Smurf 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is not a lot you can do but to ground him and take away some privlidges ie mobile fone . then sit him down and have a good talk to him.
They should never have done away with giving your kids a kick up the *** and a clip round the ear
2007-03-11 06:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋