I am a bisexual woman who is and has been in the same monogamous relationship for 3 yrs. I never cheat on my partner, nor have I ever wanted too. I feel totally attracted to both men and women (this includes transgendered people) equally and have dated as well as had relationships with women and men and each relationship, I have remained monogamous. I have in the past been rejected by some people both lesbians and straight men when they find that I am bisexual because they think that I wouldn't be monogamous. Even when I told them I don't cheat, I wasn't believed. So basically those people believed all of the stereotypes about bisexuals.
My questions are, firstly, do you think a lot of people in the gay and lesbian community still feel this way? Secondly, if any other bisexual monogamous people have experienced this?
I love that the GLBT community is so diverse but sometimes I get the feeling that bisexuals aren't always 100% accepted. Thanks.
2007-03-11 06:03:13 · 8 answers · asked by sydney77 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OMG!!! My favourite hillbilly bigot Queen Olga answered my question! I feel so priviliged. I also feel so incredibly sorry for you girlfriend. You poor closet case. When you were dragged up as a child your parents and relatives must have really done a number on you. It's ok. When you finally feel ready to come out, we in the GLBT community may just let you in.
2007-03-11 06:27:44 · update #1
Don't worry about some straight people think that gay in general people can't be monogamous!
I am a fully fledged lesbian and I believe bisexual people can be faithful, if that helps!
In all groups af people there are going to be ingnorant individuals who give us all a bad name! You seem as ifyou have found your soul mate so be happy with that and let other peoples ignorance go over your head or just laugh about it, I do
To your own self be true
2007-03-11 06:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am also a bi-sexual female, and I've run across the same issue, men *and* women believing that it's not possible for a bi-sexual person to be faithful. (Of course the men loved the idea! lol) It is possible though, and I've always been the faithful type. I'm not the type of woman that has to have someone of each sex in her life to be happy, when in a relationship it's the person that makes me happy and monogamous. I have been married to a man, and was faithful, (we split up because he wasn't) and I am now happily married to a woman (registered in DC as a domestic partnership and a Canadian wedding) and am perfectly happy.
More and more, the GLBT community is learning to accept us 'bis' as one of their own, and realizing that we can be just as monogamous as they can. As a rule, we're not any more likely to cheat than any one else, and I think that just as with any other stereotyped section of society, eventually people will realize that the stereotypes are wrong.
2007-03-11 06:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by pookieb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people might not like this answer - and I'm from the "t" part of the spectrum, so that gives 'em even a bit more to criticize - but I think that there are many in the GLBT community that disdain monogomy. I have some great g, l, b and t friends that are monogomous - but I think that those whoe are monogomous are often looked at in a suspicious fashion - like, yea, sure you are - when your significant other is around. Its kind of sad because - (1) some don't want to allow others to just be who they are; and (2) its sort of self-loathing - like, we're just not good at that kind of stuff. I'm not saying that everyone is that way - I just often got that vibe when I used to say that I was monogomous - when I was in a monogomous relation. I felt that I just wasn't taken seriously. So I don't think that it is necessarily only a bi issue - I think its also a monogomy issue.
2007-03-11 07:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by risky girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm going to agree with what some have put above and put yeah, it is stereotyping and bi-phobia. in the same aspect though, in my personal history, there is a lot of 'phobia' within the glbt spectrum, ie; lesbians & ftm's, gay males and mtf's, things like that. it's something that i think everyone has to deal with in some aspect, and untill perceptions change on all levels, it'll be around for a while at least.
good luck!
2007-03-11 09:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dirk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are a victim of a stereotype. For me being a crossdresser the first question everyone seems to ask is am I gay. People can't seem to accept that what they have been brought up to believe and what is the fact are sometimes two different things.
2007-03-11 07:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by JML 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not so much rejection..i think the fear of a bi sexual partner is based on the idea that there exist a greater chance that your bi-partner will be attracted to twice as many people.
ie; if i date a hetro-female, i only question her finding guys attractive..if she is a Bi-female im dating..she will be attracted to both guys and the girls..so my odds of loosing er to another lover are twice as high.
In one way it will make a reationship better ' coz we will try so much harder to be good and save it.
on the other hand when the relationship has its troubles..-as all relationships will - we are faced with double the competion.
To the other replies above about - the right and wrong of gay or bi- lifestyle... eating pork is an abomination unto God but most americans had bacon or ham or sausage this morning..
God looks at the heart of us..- not just our the sex acts.
Gays or Lesbians have as great a chance into heaven as you..despite her/his sexuality.
Before some of you false religious -mislead -fanatics
send a reply reffering to Acts: 10
Peters vision' ...it is NOT related to food we eat.. Peter sees all sorts of animals and is told "everything God created is Good " ( for its purpose) PIGS are created for the purpose of helping keep earth free of garbage .. their not created for consumption by us...also
read the entire chapter to the end and PETER says ' he understands the vision to be a message from God ..not to refer to men (MEN ) as unclean.
And dont dare refer to Gospel that reads " let no man judge you to what you eat " that refers to a specified time and not pork but to what clean food will be chosen.
GOD DOES NOT CHANGE'' He called the swine unclean and it is still so today, tommorrow and forevermore.
Gays-Lesbian , Pork eaters, Adulters ( Str8 sex without marriage) Smokers ( cigs/pipes/cigars) Liars, (white lies included) cheaters, manipulaters all are equal in Gods eyes and all have an equal opportunity or denial....so stop putting gays and lesbian on blast ....its not your call.
2007-03-11 06:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by billybadazz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a lot of "biphobia" unfortunately. It all stems from a fact that we seem adamant in refusing to empathize with each other. That does include gay people. Mile in my shoes, and all that.
And I'm sorry, that first answer is classic.
2007-03-11 06:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who would judge you on your past relationships, has issues. Be proud of who you are, at least you are being honest. When you share something personal with anyone, you open yourself up to their insecurities as well. Be who you are and be proud of it. That is what LGBT is supposed to be about, pride in who you are, not what someone else thinks you are.
2007-03-11 06:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋