Sometimes I wonder ...?

Question

Being gay isn't normal, is it? It's not natural, it's not logical. So why am I this way? I mean, it's pretty obvious that no amount of therapy or religion is going to change me. (Basically all that would accomplish would be to put me off therapy and religion.) There really is no genetic reason for homosexuality to exist at all. So why does it?

Yes, Mason. But which is more shameful, being gay or getting your *** kicked by a poof?

Happy - I'm aware of what genetic means. Moreso than most, actually.

Silverback - I was taught the scientific method in junior high school. That still doesn't answer the question.

Answer 1

Hi Banana, I know this is long, but please hear me out on this.

Left handed people felt the same way for thousands of years. But you need to know that being in the minority does not mean that you are unnatural or not normal, and that just because the majority mock you for not being like them doesn't mean that you are wrong and they are right. Whites condemned blacks in the same way for hundreds of years and made many of them feel that they were unnatural and not normal.

You say that there is no genetic reason for homosexuality to exist. My friend, you've let the straights contaminate your brain with their twisted logic. We are put here by God to love Him and to love one another, and we are given the ability to form a special romantic bond with another person so that we are not alone in the world, like God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. God never said, it is not good that the man does not have children or that it is not good that the man does not have a female. And when God brought Eve to Adam he never said, Oh look, a vagina and breasts; that makes her perfect as a spouse! What he said was, THIS IS NOW BONE OF MY BONES AND FLESH OF MY FLESH. Eve qualified as a mate to keep Adam from being alone in the world NOT because she was female but because she was HUMAN - from his body with the same genetic makeup. As so, all humans, male and female are flesh and bones of Adam's flesh and bones and are qualified to mate if for nothing else but than for the original cause - A SPECIAL COMPANION to keep us from being alone, someone to love and to hold and TO BE ONE WITH. If you and your mate have the genitals to procreate together, well then that is an added bonus - for God never required all of mankind to marry and reproduce, He merely gave the blessing on Mankind for the ABILITY to reproduce - else all people would have to marry, but the Apostle Paul and several others in the Bible were NOT married and had no children, and Paul even encouraged people to remain SINGLE if they could. And if the purpose for sex is only to reproduce (as heretics teach) then no one could join with their mate in love and unity - the very purpose of their union - unless their intent was procreation - and that is NOT what God gave us a mate for. Loneliness. Being alone. THAT is the one and only thing that God said was not good in His perfectly created world at the beginning. Genetics be damned! For what genetic purpose is beauty, singing, laughing, happiness and joy? Had they a GENETIC purpose, every creature would have need of it. We are not creatures of instinct, like dumb animals, but the image of God and beings of reason and love and desire and hope and faith.

Now, if you are a heterosexual who is violating his nature to be with other men, that is a whole other kettle of fish. A homosexual is not a perverted heterosexual. But a heterosexual man can pervert his nature by lying with men and a homosexual man can pervert his nature by laying with women. Be sure you know exactly who you are before you condemn yourself, and then think whether love is an issue of logic and genetics or of the heart and of God's will.
-Rev. Jim Cunningham
King James Bible Ministry
GayChristianSurvivors.com

Answer 2

So you think that because you're gay you're not "normal"? Well what *is* normal? Who among us is not different from everyone else? Being different doesn't make you not normal, it just makes you uniquely you. Being gay is not a cause for therapy, but thinking that there's something wrong with you and you're not normal might be....

And just because nothing's been found in people's genetic code that says "this person will be gay" doesn't mean it's not there. There's a lot of the human genetic code that hasn't been mapped yet, so don't say "really is no genetic reason for homosexuality to exist", we don't know that.

Answer 3

I keep hearing the words logical and normal.I feel I need to explain what scientific method is.1.I see an event 2.I try to figure what is going on.3 I make an educated guess(a null hypothesis.This means that a hypothesis is neither proved or disproved).4 I would design an experiment to prove or disprove the hypotheses through observation and measurement.5 I would submit my findings by having them published.This allows other people to review and criticize my hypothesis.It is necessary not to jump to conclusions with out knowing what your talking about.

Answer 4

I think it's an evolutionary trait. IF you believe in "God", then you know that in the bible, it says that homosexuality is wrong because "a man is not to waste his seed" or something like that. Well, with the population growth, maybe it's just becoming to where we need more homosexuals to balance the population growth. Back in those bible times, it was important to increase the population because people were dying off. Now, with the increase in technology and medicine, people are living longer, therefore we need some kind of way to control the human population. I think that's why there's gay people. I don't think there's anything "unnatural" or not 'normal" about it. I think it was in "God's" divine plan. If there IS this God being *shrugs*.

Answer 5

Bonobos also have lots of gay sex especially between females. Just so you know.
Why humans have homosexuals though? Whether it's a genetic evolutionary thing or purely psychological, I think it's because we have more complicated emotional and sexual relationships. As far as I know, we are the only species apart from the bonobo to use sex for bonding and intimacy. So it would be logical for us to have sexual relationships that are different to, say, a rabbit. A rabbit doesn't do much besides eat, crap and breed so for them sex just does the job of procreation.
Besides, asking why we need people of different sexualities is like asking why we need people of different races. It's just the way it is. It's natural. We are a diverse species and that's the way I like it.

Answer 6

What is normal?Just be who you are.You can't change who you are,and why would you want to.I think people are just born gay or straight,also maybe its they way they grow up for some people.I would accept who you are or you will never be happy.Life is too short.Today there are so many different people that society has to get over it,and we have to learn who we are and accept ourselves.Good Luck

Answer 7

It has to be a genetic flaw. Because some people just attract to the same sex as themselves. It isn't what society calls "normal," but who knows what that actually is. People shouldn't have to feel like they need to conform to society.

Answer 8

Well, I disagree with you. It might not YET be logical, but then again, it was logical to use leeches in the past for medicine. Just because we cannot yet figure out how it fits is doesn't mean that we will not in the future.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Stop asking questions like that, just deal with it, and believe me, when you deal with it like you should, you will love it!! Forget about normality and logistics, just accept it...