how old was your first child when you had your second child?

Question

i have an 18mth old lil boy and am thinking about trying for another baby in september time,
so when the baby would be born my son would be nearly 3 years old, is that too soon?
how old was your first child when you had your second child???

Answer 1

The gap between my 1st and 2nd was 2y9m. The gap between 2nd and 3rd was 3y11m. The gap between my 3rd and 4th will be 22months. I can say I have learned to appreciate me time. I have also learned a whole lot of patience.

Answer 2

my children are ready for this
16 & 13 - boys that are 32 months apart - great when they were young - a few issues when middle school came around for the oldest but not back to the best of friends - most days

11 & 9 1/2 - girls that are 19 months apart. These tow have alwys been each others best playmate. They have a great friendship that although still has problems because of having to share a room and being girls who are comming into a need for their own space sometimes - they are great - the toughest part of this for me was 2 in diapers for the first 6 months.
I now have a daughter who is turning 1 next wendesday and out 6th - yes i did say 6th - is due in september so they will only be 17 1/2 months apart. I guess I'm just one that likes havign 2 close so they have someone to play with . It always worked out very well for us.

My siblings were very spred out. When I was born my brothers were 6 & 19 and my sister was 13. I never really had a close relationship with any of them when I was young and to this day the only one who I considermyself close with is my sister and that didnt happen unill I was - about 18 or 19... and she stopped seeing me as the baby so much.

but what ever yoru decision is -Good luck

Answer 3

my first son was exactly 11 months old when my second son was born. I found out I was pregnant when my first son was one and a half months. Then we had another boy a couple years later. I am now pregnant with twins, due in June, and I have a 6, 5 and 20 month old. There are advantages to having them close together. They tend to play well together and get along, my oldest two are like twins so they do everything together. Of course there is fighting as with all siblings. It was definitly hard though. Having them that close, as it will be with these twins.

Answer 4

If you want to go ahead. No matter the age difference there are benefits and challenges to all age seraparations. Closer together and they will play together, but could be a challenge with two little ones. Further apart and the older one can help out but they may not have much in common when they are older. The older you get the harder raising kids will be. Mine are 3 years apart. They play together but they also fight about everything. The big one has also taken to hitting the little one on occasion and bullying her as well. I think it would have been better to be pregnant right after the first simply because an infant sleeps a lot and pregnancy made me tired and sick. It was difficult being pregnant with a raging two year old!

Answer 5

I had my second when my son was 7, he was so helpful, feeding and reading stories. Then 4 years after that I had my third. Don't matter what gap you leave between children as long as you prepare the first child for a new addition and involve them in scans, choosing names, helping when baby born then you should end up with loving siblings.

Answer 6

My first two kids are 17 month apart, it was difficult at first but then they became very good friends and playmates when they were 1 1/2 and 3. My third is 4 years younger and it is a very large gap, they play together but he is very definitely the baby brother, not a friend. I think that 3 years apart would be great!

Answer 7

I only have one 10 week old daughter, but I wanted to say something about age gaps...people make it sound like it's terrible to have a huge gap between children. There are 7and 1/2 years between my brother and I, and we are VERY close. I was still young enough when he was born to want to play, and then as I got older, I made it my mission to teach him things like reading,etc. And, now that we're older (17 and 24), he's one of my best friends. I think 3 years is a great time for another baby, but don't ever think that it's too late either.

Added: Forgot to mention...the best thing about our age difference: NO sibling rivalry! We hava had tiffs, but nothing like some siblings I know that are closer together.

Answer 8

I got pregnant with my 2nd when my first was 15 months old. So he was 2 years and 3 months when my 2nd son was born. Then with my 3rd, my 2nd son was 4 1/2 when he was born. . I wish I hadnt waited so long for that one. The oldest 2 are always together and are great friends.

Answer 9

My sister and I are only 15 months apart. When we really little it was great to be so close because we could play together and share toys, but once we got into middle and high school it was bad. We fought about everything - clothes, whose turn it was to be on the phone, what time to leave for school (once I was driving). We didn't really get along until I was out of the house. We get along now, but I wouldn't really consider us close. I actually think she is closer to my husband, lol.

I'm expecting my first right now, but I think 2-3 years apart is what we'll aim for with our next child. That way the oldest is a little bit more independant (and maybe out of diapers or close to it) by the time the baby is born. A friend of mine has 2 kids and #3 on the way, all 2 years apart, and her kids get along great. It seems to work out really well for them.

Answer 10

If you feel its the right time then thats all that matters, I had twins first so left a 5 yr gap before having my third child, my friend wanted hers very close together so got pregnant within a few months of her baby being born, I think its an individual choice and what suits your family then if you feel the time is right you go for it :)

Answer 11

Currently pregnant with 2nd my son should be 1month over 3years when baby comes, how he'll be when it does is a different matter, but he does sing, and kiss my tummy for the baby and helps me rub cream in daily, i'm hoping it won't be too much of a shock to his system, i just keep saying he's gonna be a big brother to a new brother or sister and He can help mammy as I can't do it without his help, only time will tell.