Large families of more than 3 or 4 children - WHY???

Question

I knew that financially I could really only afford to have 2 children, so that they could have a good quality of life as well as me and my husband.
I would possibly have 1 more but that would be it. I have a really good job, as does my husband and we can provide for our children.
But the question has to be asked, why do some people have so many children when the only way they can afford this is via the govmnt!!
I have just been talking to this 1 woman. She has 5 children. 1 of them is disabled and lives in hospital as she went into labour early and he has a catalogue of problems as a result. She is now pregnant again even though she was told after the last one that if she got pregnant again there was a chance the next baby could go the same way.
She lives in a 2 bedroom house (although the council are trying to get her a 3 bed) and neither her or her 'partner' work as she looks has to go into hospital daily to see the disabled one and her partner looks after the other kids..WHY?

Nah i'm not jealous.. I just wondered why. I know it is their choice and i agree that having more siblings would mean that there was more to love but at the end of the day the opportunities for those kids are limited.. Are their parents going to be able to afford to send each of those kids on school trips when they dearly want to go and fit in like all the other kids at school.. Dont get me wrong. I am a council kid myself (although there were only 2 of us) and I know the down fall of not having 2 parents. My mum was a single mum but she went out to work, didnt scrounge offf of the govmnt but we lived in council acc.. I had an ok childhood but i did miss out because we didnt have much. We had the lastest computer consoles etc but if there had been more than 2 of us I am in no doubt it wouldnt have been so good!

Yeah some of these answers are what I mean. I am not opposed to those who have loads of kids if they can afford them.. If i had endless amounts of cash I would have my own little football team!

Answer 1

My parents had 8 children, & only my father worked. I wouldn't say we had a comfortable upbringing, but we got by. We didn't want for anything. I don't agree with people having children & making no effort to support them themselves. I think it's lazy & sets a really bad example for the children. As we didn't have much money when we were growing up, it made us appreciate the value of money & the value of a hard days work. I cannot tolerate people who insist on living off benefits - why should we have to work hard & pay our taxes just so other people can sponge off us? I really feel for the people you spoke about - it's an unfortunate situation for them to be in with their child, but why should we have to foot the bill?

Answer 2

First , the government is a catch 22. they help you small , having a baby pay for that . They don't pay for tieing tubes until you are 23 yrs old . They don't pay for birth control. You can have a couple more kids if you started at 18. You get trap in the system,and the baby is put on Medicaid and Wic. You just don't get the how this works. GOD BLESS Mother of 6

Answer 3

I come from a large kinfolk, there is 7 childrens in all. i'm the youngest by way of 8 years, so i think of my mom stumbled on it puzzling to furnish as plenty time to the others while i replaced right into a toddler, as needless to say infants are very annoying, so i think of to a undeniable quantity those comments are valid. in spite of the indisputable fact that, i think of it rather is ridiculous to assert that "you would be able to desire to have intercourse plenty" etc, while in sensible words you opt for in basic terms have had intercourse 8 circumstances, and that i'm useful you and your better half have intercourse as much as any conventional couple. i think of there is often going to be questions raised regardless of the indisputable fact that as large families arent that effortless these days, so which you will merely could desire to attempt to forget approximately them, and merely be grateful to have numerous individuals who you adore and who love you on your existence.

Answer 4

who are we to judge....... i know a family with 14 children and another on the way,....... all children are happy, well looked after and well fed..... daddy is self employed and mum is a full time mum.... they do not rely on state handouts so why shouldnt they have the right to have kids.
i also know of a family of 7 kids...... mum and dad do not work.... kids are snot nosed dirty littel kids who spend half their time playing outdoors. as soon as dole day comes arround dad is in pub and mum is spending silly money on lottery tickets......
i dont think it is fair to judge all families in the same way.
perhaps the government should only pay for the 2.5 children that we are supposed to have. we are never going to stop mindless people having loads of kids. but getting mad isnt going to change the way things are, i say each to their own.....
so long as the kids are happy and their needs taken care of i dont see a problem

Answer 5

2 generations ahve been brought up in the Uk to believe that the state will provide. And in most cases, they are correct. It is very limiting on their childrens' prospects and is the class divide, between the self-sufficient and the dependant.

Answer 6

It is people with smaller families that are indirectly supporting the larger families. Unless the larger families are on mega bucks it doesn't pay them to work.

Answer 7

Good question. Not everyone thinks logically. It is likely that the woman has an emotional reason to keep having babies, plus doesn't she get more money for each baby she has?

Answer 8

the thing is, usually only the people who cannot "afford" it have that many children, but, I wouldn't want to pass judgement.... I just don't know. it's their choice.

Answer 9

Because she's not footing the bill!
I bet if she had to pay all that expense she would think twice before popping them out.

Answer 10

Because people love making life and growing up with large families. I am one of 6 and I loved it even if we didn't have a lot of money. we had each other, what more could we need?