I have a very wonderful boyfriend, he is very good to me and we get along quite well. I am having one problem though, he is VERY grabby, touchy, pushing, pulley.
He always has to grab my boobs, pinch my nips, grab onto me, pull me toward him (and he is very rough), a few times he has left bruises. If he leaves to go somewhere, ie work in the morning...etc...he can never just give me a sweet nice kiss, it has to be this big Porno kiss. I hope I am explaining all this clearly, it is like he is WAY over the top. I like affection, but not all this man handling. I have tried to tell him on several occasions, but he seems to just blow it off. I am getting to the point where I don't want to spend as much time with him because this gets on my nerves and wears me down. I would hate for this relationship to end though, I truly do care and love him. Help me try and get this across to him.
Thank you.
2007-03-11 04:50:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More details.....I don't see this as abuse, he is just Overly aggressive when it comes to affection, over the top like I said before.
Also, we aren't "shacking" up. LOL!!!
I just need him to tone it down.
Did you ever see the cartoon "PePe Lepu?" well, I feel like the little cat in that cartoon.
2007-03-11 05:21:47 · update #1
sorry, one more thing, He has to show me his penis when he has a "woody"?
why? I can be getting ready for work and he has to come into the bathroom and pull it out to show me!! we aren't getting ready to have sex or anything!
My friend says her boyfriend does the same thing!!!! It is annoying!!!!!!!
2007-03-11 05:24:44 · update #2
well,you really need to sit him down and talk to him,he has to and needs to respect you befor you relationship can grow and become more.you need to make sure he understands how important it is to respect a woman.
2007-03-11 05:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by guitpicker777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sure isn't a real man, lover and partner, is he? Rather childish, to say the least, and rather toward the end of brutality, since lots of this you state you don't much care for. If you can't "educate" the boy into becoming a gentle, loving partner, hon, and if he continues to leaves bruises on you, and you stay, he is abusive, and you, sweetie, are an idiot. Loving, and being loved is a mutual endeavor of pleasure, kindness, and tenderness. From what you have stated here, this doesn't exist. He using a power-trip on you, and you don't even realize it. The only question that comes to mind, is "Why are you still there??" Don't you think you deserve better??
2007-03-11 12:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your comments above are perfect. Simply print it out and leave it where he can find it. If he realizes that it bothers you so much that you do not want to be around him as much, then that will make a difference. Perhaps some insight into why would be a good discussion. If I had to guess, he did not receive much touchie love from parents or acts just like them. Have you met them? Are they like that? Ask. Hope this helps.
2007-03-11 12:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by GA-Seagull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm well.. men can be a little bit agressive now when showing love... so just try and say ENOUGH or STOP or UR HURTING ME.... or something loud.....becuz he will keep doing this .....and for the kiss... try to kiss him softly on the cheek not on the lips and if he tries to kiss u the way he did just push him aside... telling him if u can't kiss me right then don't kiss me at all!!!!
2007-03-11 12:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Robbie64,
If you don't tell him point blank it has to stop, you will have to endure this behavior forever (doesn't sound very pleasant does it?). One alternative, get someone to treat you the way you want to be treated. Good luck!
2007-03-11 12:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWWW...the beginings of an abusive relationship. How cute!
Leave.
2007-03-11 12:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a pig he is. Leave the @sshole.
2007-03-11 15:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you werent shacking with him he wouldnt be doing that now would he?
2007-03-11 12:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him knows wat is ENOUGH when he 'show' it to u. Affection dont have to be exaggerate. Juz a light one is good enough for u. Hope tis help. Gd luck.
2007-03-11 12:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, he is too rough
2007-03-11 12:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋