Should I divorce the wife ??

Question

She started snoring 2 weeks ago so after 23 years of marriage she has started to let herself go..I told her I would divorce her if she snored again and now 2 weeks later she has big black bags under her eyes !!!!
Why is she doing this to me???

Answer 1

I just could not believe what I read , come on that's no excuse to divorce the wife of 23yrs. Maybe you have got some thing on your mind that's keeping you awake, and only noticed she's snoring , maybe she's been snoring for 23yrs , how would you know if you have been sleeping With a sound mind. You threatening her with divorce as made her self , stay awake at night to please you, that's why shes got bags under her eyes and letting herself go is she s too Blooming tired to even get dressed poor lady. How can you treat her like this with threats, she cant win , she stays awake to not snore then shes to tired to dress to your requirements. Give your wife a break and move in the spare room yourself, then you wont hear her snoring and she will be able to get a good nights sleep and start taking the pride in dressing for you the way you have liked her to dress. When your in the spare room thinking before you go to sleep , think why you married her , how you have been together so long , and you saying these things to her are really making her ill,. Do you think the love has fizzled out on your side of the marriage and using these horrid remarks for you to feel better when you do leave her ,but think , your age at the moment , your no spring chicken are you going through the male menopause and think you need a bit of spice in your life with another lady, if you do think like this , for gods sake think twice what you will be loseing as some wives will never take a cheating husband back , and some wifes will get over a divorce and the next time you see her on another mans arm looking stunning , will you be gutted or glad . It does work two ways you know so , go to relate or talk to your wife and tell her that you want out if thats what you want for at least she will be still be young enough to meet a man who will love her even if she does SNORE. Shes been faithful to you all these years. You are a selfish pig if you divorce her over such a petty thing , which can easily be resolved , thats IF you REALLY , dont want to lose her.

Answer 2

23 yrs 2gether is a very long time do u really want 2 hurt her with u saying that ur going 2 divorce her coz she snores?

You really need 2 think about this logically maybe going to a pharmesy and ask on what is avabile about helping her not 2 snore.

Every1 snores at somepoint just that we dont know that we do unless some 1 tells us we do

About the bags under her eyes is maybe shes not getting enough sleep due 2 the fact that u keep therating her with divorce ask her to relax in a bath and put cucuember on her eyes this can some times help but does take awhile for it to effect

I really do hope that ur only joking about the divorce as to me u would b stupid to throw away ur marriage just coz she snores!

Answer 3

My partner has started snoring just in the past year. He was in an accident and put on 40 pounds. The snoring keeps me awake every night. I havent slept in months myself. I even resorted to going to different rooms. Finally I did some research and found that weight gain does effect this, also it could be an allergy or sinus condition. Go on www.webmd.com and other sites if you google search to get more information. I started with a temporary solution of Breathe Right strips, which he puts across the nose every night and Breathe Right also makes a liquid spray that you can spritz 3-4 sprays in the throat and it so far is helping. Her black bags are probably from restless sleep. But more importantly, if someone starts letting themselves go, it is usually a sign of a bigger problem. Talk to her about it and get her to a doctor. It may be a medical condition. I know your frustration, but be patient. Remember it is an involuntary thing and she cant help it, so help her. Good Luck

Answer 4

Are you serious?!?!?! Just because she snores doesn't mean that you should divorce her. It sounds like you guys have alot more problems than snoring...There are certainly different aides out there for your wife to stop snoring. There is a breathing machine that your doctor can prescribe for her and it works wonders. My dad loves it. I am actually thinking of getting it for my husband. It seems to really help an overweight person breathe better during sleep. I think you should offer to take her to the doctor and help resolve this problem. Don't let something silly like that break your marriage up. Especially after so many years!!!

Answer 5

Have you study why people snoring?. I think you better do it now. Study really shows that people snoring have some stress problems. Maybe the way you treat her coz of her snoring. did you ever consider about that. The black eye bag is coz lack of sleep. I think she really need to rest and dint pressure her about divorcing. She will ask from you sooner or later she really cant stand you anyway. Because of snoring you file for a divorce.

Answer 6

I don't think the problem is the snoring, it is the excuse for you to feel comfortable in divorcing her. It sounds like she might have a nasal blockage and should see her family dr. or an ENT. You on the other hand need to see a marriage conselor your wife isnt sleeping so she doesnt snore. You should be ashamed. You better not divorce her, because she sounds as if she would find some one better, and you will be a lonely old man.

Answer 7

If you could just pass this advice on to your lovely wifey I'm sure it would help.

Mrs London bloke. The best thing for the snoring problem you have would be to stick hot needles in your London blokes toes. It wont stop you snoring but it will give him a bit of pain and may make you feel much better. Or you could get him some ear plugs.

Answer 8

Oh man.... give her a break.
Could it be that you are demanding too much? Poor girl. She must be confused from one day to the next
Apart from being a wife, a mother, a housekeeper and probably and earner too, what more do you want?
Are you prepared to take some of the tasks off her shoulder so that she can concentrate on herself for a change?
Then if you aren't, you'll have to just accept her as she is.
You have done so for 23 yrs another 23 years shouldn't matter that much.
You will miss her I am telling you now.
I'd say NO to divorcing her.

Answer 9

How selfish and immature can you be? People have no control over whether or not they snore. "She's letting herself go - why is she doing this to you"? How old are you, nine?

If you were at all intelligent you would realize that there are physical reasons why people snore. Some of them are not only annoying, they can be dangerous and life-threatening. Sleep apnea is one of them, some people stop breathing during their sleep.

Your wife needs to see a doctor. A doctor can decide if she needs to go to a sleep center to see if she has sleep apnea. Instead of blaming her for "annoying you", why don't you try getting her some help?

My prayers are with her.

Answer 10

Have you ever thought she can't help snoring. With your attitude and telling your wife you would divorce her over something so silly as snoring, no wonder she has let herself go. How can someone be so rude. Do you snore?