just split from boyfriend, and pregnant, what is single parent life like?

Question

I am five and a half months pregnant and very scared of the future

I am 23 forgot to mention that

Answer 1

hi there,
dont be scared, its probably the hardest time you are going to experience, but also the most rewarding, i was left with 3 kids under 10 when my hubby left me, at first i thought my world would fall apart, but it didnt, i had to pick myself up, dust myself down, and get on with it for the sake of the kids if nothing else, money is always going to be tight, but you learn to budget, you get lonely, but you have friends and family and the internet to keep you company when the kids are in bed, there are groups run by gingerbread to help single parents, they will give you all the info and support you need to get through it, and if all else fails and you still need someone to rant at, a shoulder to cry on, add me to your yahoo messenger! good luck and congrats on the baby, just think it will be only you that gets to witness all his/her firsts, thier first word will be mum-mum the smiles will be reserved for only you, its an amazing time and you WILL be strong enough to get through it!

Answer 2

Hun, its fine. It doesnt matter if your 15, 23 or 29+ those who find themselves as single parents all deal with the same stuff. Hopefully you have parental support, even if you do/dont there is always the sessions where baby gets weighed in after birth, in the UK the health visitors usually do open clinics so its a chance for all the mums to get together have a coffee and a chat, you can get help with sorting out benefits, speak to your midwife. Im not saying its all roses especially when your hormonal. I loved being a single parent I had so much quality time with my son, ~I didnt have to consider a partner in the decisions I made, I went back to College, still managed a break every couple of months. I even went and did a degree and went back to work.Checkout "Gingerbread".theyre a UK support group for single parents. The only thing I ever struggled with was mothers day, I found that tough seeing other Mums getting cards etc. But if your lucky someone will think of that for you.
Honestly you will cope, you rest/sleep when baby sleeps and you tailor the housework and washing around the baby.
Dont forget to take up the offers of help, as it will give you the opportunity to look after yourself.
I did my second pregnancy in a relationship and did feel though I was doing it all myself with little support, my third Im hoping to be pampered, adored, and supported emotionally....theres always hope!
Good Luck X

Answer 3

Wow, the answer to this could go on and on for a very long time, but I will try to put it all in a nutshell for you as best I can. Being a single parent is not easy but it can be very rewarding. I have 6 children that I have raised and still raising on my own. If you have support of family members and close friends, it can make things a lot easier. I found the hardest things to be when you are working and your child/children get sick and you are the only one that picks him/her up from school and take to the doctor. It's also harder trying to be mom and dad because of the way each roles raise their children. Dad's tend to be more stearn and moms are more forgiving so a lot of times you have to put the motherly part of you aside for a moment and be the man. Financially it's very hard unless you have the support from the father. It's much better when both parents are involved financially, physically and emotionally with the child/children. You don't have to have both parents in the same household, but both parents should be involved 100%. On the other hand, being a single parent can make you strong and proud. Just do your best and be the best parent you can be and you will raise a beautiful, productive child. Keep that child busy with school activities, sports etc.. and always participate with the child's school. Be strong and firm and talk to your child. Always tell your child you love him/her and never talk bad about the other parent in front of the child no matter how bad the other parent is. Trust me, the abscent parent will hang himself/herself on his/her own one day. Be a good role model and you will be fine. It's hard to raise a child/children on your own, but it can be done. It's all about your attitude and your willingness to never give up. Good luck and I know you will do a great job.

Answer 4

Well, I hope you have the support of friends and family, because it's tough. I don't know how old you are, but if you're not out of school yet, I would tell you to adopt the baby out because you are not ready for that kind of responsibility.

You will have no time for a social life. You will be tired all the time from getting up at night to take care of the baby. If you're working/going to school, you'll have to have daycare, which is spendy. Babies cost a lot with food, clothes, diapers and the necessities to keep them safe and comfortable.

Unless you have support that's willing to help you with allllllll that goes along with being a mom, put the baby up for adoption- find some loving, caring parents that will nurture that child.

Answer 5

well to see it from another perspective, im a daughter of a single parent, i also have a rother and my mum brought up both of us on her own and personally i think she did a tremendous job.

i admit i dont think i made it easier on her, but it is possible, and yeh it will behard, and scary, but im sure you will do fine, the fact that you admit that your nervous is a start, it means you have a chance to get any help you need. there is probably a single parents group in the local neighbourhood for other parents in the same position.

good luck, and just remember dont seel yourself out to some guy thinking a kid needs a father, they can turn out fine without one!! and sometimes its better to have just a mum than a mother and some hrrible father. however, saying that, you may meet the right person, you never know.

good luck, and there will be good days and bad days, but eventually, the reward will be worth it!! xx

Answer 6

parenting itself is difficult and trying. The best thing to do for the child is always the best decision maker. I chose to divorce the father of my three children and have been a single mom for 4 years and while I am not going to tell you its easy. I will say keeping a civil tongue an including their father in all discipline and decision makes life easier. The stress of a bad relationship is never as bad as being a single parent.Good Luck an congrats!

Answer 7

I was 20 when I had my first and 23 for my second. I'm a single mother and love it. It is hard, do get me wrong. But it's an amazing feeling to know I can take care of both my children my self. Don't be scared, you'll do great.

Answer 8

Statistically there are better than before whether that is not a majority. additionally FYI in WWII in Britain and Europe maximum infants have been raised in single parent families, a minimum of for years if no longer completely. human beings will continually have intercourse and be careless. numerous the time (i might challenge to assert a million/2 the time) that's the adult males strolling out, why are you blaming all of it on the girls persons? definite i think of they might desire to apply delivery administration, I genuinely have continually been particularly great on using delivery administration and retaining myself even while i grew to become into in a dedicated courting, yet some human beings in basic terms are not too vivid, or have not been injury so as that they are too trusting... no one has a baby to get economic secure practices. baby help in user-friendly terms supplies you a share of what it takes to advance a baby, it easily does not supply all of it plus some. you're actually not financially sturdy in case you have a baby and are on baby help and advantages. you've gotten the means to scrape by technique of whether that is not lots of a existence. existence is so strange besides, ideally babies could be all wonderful and planned and raised by technique of two mothers and fathers, yet seem back in the direction of the previous and see there have continually been strange circumstances, continually would be, and the babies are resilient and adapt for this reason. by technique of how an in depth pal's mom is a single mom, her husband left for a youthful female after 30 years of marriage (even nevertheless she looks youthful than she is! some husbands in basic terms grow to be bastards while they have mis-existence crises). So that is puzzling to decide considering the fact which you do no longer understand the circumstances, i think of this sort of concern is extra person-friendly than you think of.

Answer 9

Think about what would be best for the baby. If you have to work all the time you will hardly ever see your baby. You might think about give up the baby for adoption.
That way the baby would have a mother and a dad.
Are you ready to stop your life of dating and hanging with friends and only work and take care of a child?
Hard question, but decide what to do for the baby..

Good luck.

Answer 10

i wont beat around the bush i would rather be with my husband than without.. i have been a single mum of 2 and found it so hard at times but the best thing about it is that there is no one else to interfere with your routine and your rules.. when i met my husband we had so many rows about how the kids should be brought up but now we have compromised and met each other half way, it's so much easier when it's only you who decides the rules and you can only blame yourself when it goes wrong.
im sure you'll be fine.. good luck x