her marriage is been fixed with her cousin whom she hates like hell. she tryied to convince her parents they dint agree she tryied to commit sucide 2 times then to they dint agree with her they are forcing her to marry that person whom she hates most in the world. so now she is decided to come out from her house & live her life independently she is asking me to suggest i am blank about this plz help me friends? bcoz she is not completed her studyies yet.
2007-03-11 03:36:26 · 12 answers · asked by friend4all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
JUST RUSHED OUT AND COMPLAINT TO POLICE FOR FORCE MARRIAGE. BE BOLD HELP HER LET HER NOT TO GO IN HELL. SHE SHOULD BE GIVEN OPPORTUNITY TO DECIDE HER LIFE AFTER HER EDUCATION. TAKE THE HELP OF LEARNED PERSON OF THE AREA.
2007-03-11 04:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she has reached marriageable age, she is a mature adult who can take her own responsibility and think independently for herself, although she is yet to complete her studies. It is extremely dangerous to force her into a marriage against her wishes. Chances are that she will lead an unhappy married life and even get separated from her husband, if not something more unfortunate. That will hardly fulfill her parents' wishes. However, if they are stubborn maybe she or her friends should contact the prospective groom in person and explain the situation. He would pull out if he sees the reality that there would be no bliss in this marriage. But in this age of liberal thinking the last thing any parent should do is to force their daughter in a marriage against her wishes.
2007-03-11 11:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a very typical situation. And in my opinion the most difficult question to answer. But to my personal views this is not possible is there no one in the family who can stand by her, surely search for that.
And when a family member and you as a friend will stand by her she will be more safe and beyond that can start a part time job and no one can force her to marry a person whom she hate, the reason would be genuine as girls recognise a man from their behaviour.
I request you to stand by her and try to help her. I know you are the only person who can bring happiness to her and can save her .
You should also take a advise from a good lawyer.
2007-03-12 01:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by RUBY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should help her out with her necessities(shelter, clothes, and food) and then I think you should gather a few other friends and go to her house and try to settle this problem with her parents but DO NOT take her with you. They might take her back forcefully. By her friends talking to her parents, her parents might realize that what they had done was a horrible mistake and fix her marriage with someone else who she approves of. I think that is the best way. Suicide will not get her anywhere. Every person has the right to live and the right to live the way they want to live. Try my advice. Best of Luck and just pray and hope everything will be okay.
2007-03-11 12:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by riri4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her. Her safety and health are most important. depending on how old she is... and if she's still legally a minor plays a huge roll. maybe if she has other family members or older close friends she can live with and get everything straighten out would be best. if she doesnt have that... going to local authorities would help. They can help her find a social worker to help work out all of her problems. Plus, she would give a statement about how awful it was being with her family. that way she has something on record to help if her parents demand she comes back. While giving a statement isnt enough proof alone it will help since she providing documentation.
if she attempted suicide, she needs more help than you can provide alone... she needs a professional...
2007-03-11 10:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by avita81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she hates the man proposed by her parents ,ask her to pretend to the max....suicide is not the solution,ask her to remove the thoughts from the brain first.....as the life is precious and still much more to live up ......just take the help of woman organisations,they will solve your friends problem,or just go to the nearest police station and lodge a complaint against their parents act or talk to the elders of the family apart from parentsor well wishers of the family.........good luck.
2007-03-11 10:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by popcandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is not a way out. That would make her parents rush in for the marraige. Ask her to talk to her parents and convince them that she cannot be happy with that guy. If they don't realize, she can lodge in a complain against her parents. Then they would themselves send her out to some secure place and she can get some time. But beware, if her parents are over sensitive, lodging complain can have nasty effects.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-12 16:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has not completed study this is a problem she should tell her parents that first she want to complete her study and then she want to marriage if she get a good job she could leave her home I think her parents are too much cruel I want to kill her parents.
2007-03-12 04:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pls help her and be with her and dont let her do anything wrong and if she is minor u can lodge complain in police station and tell her not to marry the person she hates so much.
take suggestions from ur elders may be they can help u and ur friend.
all the best and pls help her
2007-03-11 17:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by simran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to take the help of some one who is close to their family. Because.. only they can convince her parents. Think and try to find one correct person and seek his/her help. This issue cannot be solved by me & others.
Better ask her, who is close relative to their family.
2007-03-12 01:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by hazarath r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋