If you are in a marriage that is not providing sexual satisfaction for you, but you are deeply in love with your spouse, would it be ok to go to a prostitute, male if you're a lady or female if you're a male, for sexual gratification only? There would be zero emotional connection and it would be only for physical release. Would it be ok to do such a thing?
I am asking as a result of an answer to another question I asked. This has nothing to do with me. It is just a question for married people to respond to.
2007-03-11 03:18:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Focus. I did not ask if it was adultery. I asked if it was cheating. Adultery is not the same as cheating in my opinion.
2007-03-11 03:33:26 · update #1
IT DEPENDS ON WHAT DIRECTION THEIR MORAL COMPASS IS POINTING..
2007-03-11 03:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by kathy p 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion there's no justification for "cheating". Using the services of a prostitute is "cheating" whether there is an emotional connection or not.
Mature adults who love and respect their spouse do not look outside their marriage, for any reason. Every situation is different, everyone has to decide for themselves what is most important to them. If someone isn't sexually satisfied within their marriage and it's that important, then they should leave their spouse.
I have been married for 34 years, I love and respect my husband. If something unfortunate happened and we were no longer able to be intimate with one another, it would never enter my mind to leave or look at someone else. Sex is a magical and beautiful thing, but it's not the glue that holds our marriage together.
I hope I answered your question, it's only my opinion, it's how I feel about marriage. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
2007-03-11 03:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I understand, most men have affairs without an emotional connection so a prostitute would fall in that catagory. I feel the men that use a prostitute don't want the hassle of "the other woman". Most men that cheat love their wives and have no emotional connection to the other woman. You are genetically wired to cheat but society says that you shouldn't do it. As long as your make your wife feel secure in the marriage then it should be alright. Women feel that if a man is with another woman, then he is looking for someone else and is getting ready to leave her. Make sure your protect yourself.
2007-03-11 03:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
some people may disagree with me but cheating doesn't exactly have to be physical contact. anything that u wouldn't tell your spouse about is cheating. if there is someone at work that u r flirting with and u know it would make your spouse uncomfortable then it is cheating. would u tell your wife that u want to see a prostitute? would she be comfortable with that? if someone is having trouble with their sex life then they should talk about it with their spouse. u married this person and marriage is all about sharing everything in your life----problems and all.
2007-03-11 03:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are not many women who would find it acceptable for their husband to see a prostitute.
Even if you ignore the infidelity angle, you are having sex with someone in the very high risk category for sexually transmitted disease. This means that it you are exposing your partner to this same risk, probably unknowingly. It's fine if you want to take that kind of risk, but it's hardly fine to subject another to that kind of risk without telling them.
Then in most places prostitution is illegal. So you risk arrest and in some places public shaming if you are caught. Again, this is unlikely to sit well with your wife.
So I am going to say the answer is pretty much always going to be no to this one. I'd say the same is true if you are a women considering using a male prostitute.
2007-03-11 03:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by ZCT 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
sexual gratification or aggrandizement (?) is a matter of mind setting. Sexual pleasure can be derived either within us or through somebody whom we maybe affectionate or not. Much pleasure if we can internalize with our partner but if not it is only libido or "libog". Going out with a hired prosti can give you more headache than doing it by yourself alone or to somebody for a one night but good experience, how about that? Try it with your friend or a long lost loved one. You will just feel guilty if you have ****** a prosti and imagine her to be your wife or him as your husband. As I said, pleasure is an emotional thing and you can do it by just imagining.
2007-03-11 03:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by maogma si bong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be cheating just read the wedding vows that are made, whether it means nothing or not its still cheating.
Sit and talk to each other about the problem and maybe marriage guidance may help.
2007-03-11 03:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is when any married person has ANY seual contact with ANY human except their spouse. Actual physical contact isn't required. It can be merely emotional, it can be long distance, but ANY sexual contact is off limits.
2007-03-11 04:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
technically it is cheating, unless they know about it.
cheat (cht)
v. cheat·ed, cheat·ing, cheats
v.tr.
1. To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases.
2. To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land.
3. To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye.
4. To elude; escape: cheat death.
v.intr.
1. To act dishonestly; practice fraud.
2. To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards.
3. Informal To be sexually unfaithful: cheat on a spouse.
n.
1. An act of cheating; a fraud or swindle.
2. One who cheats; a swindler.
3. Law Fraudulent acquisition of another's property.
2007-03-11 03:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cheating is cheating no matter how many excuses u make for it -let me ask u this- how would u feel if ur spouse was asking this question?
2007-03-11 03:23:47 · answer #11 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋