why or why not?
for those who did did they cheat again or stay faithful?
and lastly was your marriage able to survive the infidelity?
2007-03-11 00:55:15 · 15 answers · asked by maylene1852 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for person who asked. it was 4 sexual encounters with same woman in 2 month timespan. husband confessed all after 4th time, i never would have found out. he also changed his behavior, broke all contacts, and agreed to marriage counseling.
2007-03-11 01:23:40 · update #1
no..........odds are that if they cheat once they will cheat again
2007-03-11 01:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There should be no second chances for spouses that cheat. They made a vow not to. I've never heard of any marriage surviving infidelity anyway. The cheating spouse may have in his/her mind to be faithful while the faithful spouse has it in her/his mind to cheat. Mistrust continues to prosper in marriages marred by infidelity, and that mistrust eventually destroys it.
2007-03-11 01:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by lilcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd time I gave him a second chance. He could stay faithful for about 2 seconds. No our marriage was not able to survive. But I can tell you that I am a better stronger person now after my divorce. You can be too. It hurts but you will one day soar.
2007-03-11 01:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by hotmomma4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had two girlfriends cheat on me and on each occasion i gave them a second chance but hey guess what they tried again without me knowing and i caught them again.
on both occasions with these girls the relationship broke down because in the end deep down you will never trust that person again. once a cheater always a cheater.
i have had a few more girls since those two and now if they even think off cheating or i find out they have i leave there sorry ***.
in this whole time that it has happened to me i have never once cheated on any of my partners and will never lower myself to that standard.
2007-03-11 01:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by luckylovelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I gave someone another chance after cheating...in fact, I gave more than one chance to the same person. After several years of going back and forth with the same old bull, I finally accepted the fact that he was a scumbag who would always cheat, no matter what, and I left him. Of course, after every time he got caught, he would apologize profusely and swear to me that he loved me and would never do it again. He even started going to church. But it didn't change anything. He kept cheating, and he kept apologizing...but I eventually figured out that his apologies were empty and he wasn't going to stop.
Now, there's no way in hell I would give someone another chance after cheating. Never. If they do it once, they've proven what kind of person they are, and they're not worth my time.
2007-03-11 01:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and so far he has and so has our marriage.
He got a hooker in hussie land, the land down under. He was scared to tell me cause i swore up and down i would leave him if he ever did. We worked it out and I still don;t fully trust what he does on deployments now. But i love him and he seems to have stayed on the right path. Its been over 3 years and 7 deployments since.
But they if he ever goes back there you can bet your sweet A%% i'll be waiting on the pier when the ship pulls in and when it leaves.
2007-03-11 01:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a reason for divorce. Everything happens for a reason. Find the need that isn't being met. Don't listen to the crazy cat ladies...they are alone in life for a reason.
2007-03-11 01:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't say i've been married -
But, personally, I didn't give him a 2nd chance. I decided that no one who loved you enough would be able to do something to hurt you so much - regardless of the excuse.
Even if the guilt and regret are evident - they still did it and it hurt. No one deserves the power to hurt you.
2007-03-11 01:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by numbereight888 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because he denied it, and later apologized profusely, but in the end, got divorced because he was a liar, and was not going to change. In hindsight, I would say, if he cheats, do not give a second chance, kick him to the curb, save yourself years of heartache, and MOVE ON!!!
2007-03-11 00:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i did 5 times with 5 different men then i quit counting chances and men as long as i get mine i cant tell she has gave any away
2007-03-11 03:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by JR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I tried, and they cheated again a few years later.
2007-03-11 00:58:35 · answer #11 · answered by Jbr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋