If you are married and so is another guy.....?

Question

Is it really bad to be together even though you both really have strong feelings for each other??

Answer 1

You know is bad, because you would be cheating your husband. If you think there is a possibility of having a foursome do it, if not you will have to chose between being loyal to your husband or cheating. You should know whats more important to you, your relationship or the attraction you feel.

Answer 2

I would say silly ? but you dont want to hear that, right well from what I hear most of the time when people leave each other for someone else it doesn't last over a year mine lasted about 3 but things still didn't work out love is something hard to live with out and we need it in our lives and when other people are involved it is really hard to call it love, for one thing you dont have the time or the commitment to know how strong the love really is and until you have that time look at it as lust. If your a christian than you shoild know the answer If your moral values are high than you should know the answer. LIfe aint easy neither is love sometimes I hate both but good luck

Answer 3

Oh gee, Um this is more of a Jerry Springer question...Okay so why don't you tell your husband that he can find someone to screw around with too I always say a relationship is suppose to be 50/50...Your obviously not in love anymore..you may care about ur hubby... but thats not love...love is when you would do anything and everything to make this person happy and would never do anything to mess up what you two have together...and as for this other guy..if you really have strong feelings for him which I call lust.. him then ask him if he feels th same way then ask him to leave his wife for u and see what he says...you have to do what makes you happy but you alwso have to think about everything in the long run...if you cheated on your husband and he left you then this other guy decided he didnt want to commit to you what would you have left??? Memorys

Answer 4

If you really love your significant other you should not cheat. If you and this other guy have feeling for each other than maybe you should both re-evaluate where you are in your current relationship and end things with your husband or wife. It will be much better than the hurt you will cause if caught cheating.
Besides when you marry that person should be your soul mate. You should not even want to hurt them in this way. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Yes. You are committing adultery, and it is not fair to your partner. Imagine loving someone, and it turns out they are making magic with another. Chances are, he already has an idea. In addition, these new powerful feelings you have for this guy will likely fade as the newness wears off. Make sure this is what you really want before making any life changing decisions (i.e. divorce - especially if you have kids). Just don't lead a double life - it won't pay off as much as an honest and mature approach to the situation. I wish you luck.

Answer 6

It's not really on is it? I am sure that if you felt o.k about this you wouldn't be on here asking the question.
However, I have had friends that started affairs under these circumstances and were absolutely right to do so. In short only you and this fella understand your situation and it is up to you both to make your decisions accordingly. Just don't be cruel and work it all out carefully.
Good luck.

Answer 7

It's not bad if you're married to each other. Otherwise, yes, it is really bad. No one deserves to be cheated on. Besides, your infidelity may scare new relationships off -- who would want to take a gamble and love someone who thinks nothing of cheating on their spouse? And, really, have you considered that this guy may eventually cheat on you as he is cheating on his wife? The confidence that you feel in your relationship with him is probably the same that his wife feels, and you know what he is doing to her.

Answer 8

if you both have feelings for each other then neither of you are happy at home, think long and hard before you proceed, these things happen but its how you deal with them that really matters, becoming involved whilst you both have partners is going to become messy, is your new relationship going to stand the problems that it will inevitably bring, is your new relationship worth breaking 2 marriages for? these are the questions you should be asking yourselves now, where does your new partner stand on these issues? its not an easy situation but not insurmountable either, good luck

Answer 9

If you have to ask this question. . .then its perfectly fine for you to be together. I'm sure your spouses won't mind, I mean you do have really strong feelings right? should be OK.

Here's hoping he all ready has an attorney.
BTW whatever happens remember that YOU don't need an attorney. Your obviously smart enough to handle whatever happens on your own. No sense on wasting money on an attorney, when you can handle it yourself.

Answer 10

its not bad 2 b 2gether till u both cn control urself, but da culture u live in, u kno u both wud end up cheatin on ur spouse, it's a limited attraction which might fade away later, & for dis ur risking ur married lifes. leave it 2 destiny, if u both r meant for eachother, destiny wud bring u 2gether, HOW ??? if we had an ans for dat we'd be god, but only time shows u da way. n if it doesnt, though it'l hurt like hell, but nuthn else 2 do but accept it.
dont cheat on sme1 who loves u memba dat. cos u dnt kno whether things wud work out wid dis new person or not, but if they dont, u both wud b empty handed, as u wud loose da 1's who love u