2007-03-11 00:11:22 · 17 answers · asked by angel go 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
actually,i caught him...but i choose to stay..and im still in the process of giving all "MY TRUST BACK" to him..he's helping, so far..God knows how much i suffered...and i've learned so much from what happened..and now i'm open to whatever is going to happen..(with a STRONGER me)... mwah mwah!! thanks guys!!
2007-03-11 00:25:34 · update #1
he's cheating on you! do you want him to cheat on you all your life? get out of the relationship..
2007-03-11 00:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by starshie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, trust is broken in many different ways and chosing to stay is definately the harder of the 2 decisions. The reality is this, my partner and I faced a trust situation where she completely stomped on my trust, and it's taken a year for her to "get it back." Now, it's not the say that I'm not suspicious that she's not telling me the WHOLE truth sometimes, but I am giving her the benefit of a doubt. We are in love, she made a mistake, and staying will always be a ball that's in my court. If you are willing to get past the cheating, then I say "Bravo" to you, but ESPECIALLY in a gay male relationship, I would be concerned about his sexual habits...you may be monogamous, but if he's not, he could give you a disease you didn't even know you had the potential of getting....be careful...as this is a double edged sword. Good luck honey, and more power to you for being strong!
2007-03-11 00:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by greenbuddha03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were partnered and found out he was cheating on me I would have to ask myself some questions, I would need to explore the reason behind the cheating: am I not fulfilling his needs? was this a "retaliation" for something I said/did or didn't say/do? has he cheated before? who is the person he cheated on me - is it an ex or just a really hot guy?
Once I had my answer, I would then talk to my partner about the incident. Communication is the only way to understand the other person. I'd want to know his motivation for cheating, the circumstances surrounding it, his feelings about it (guilt, excitement, whatever), his feelings about me and our relationship, if there's something lacking in our relationship. Based on that talk I would have to make a decision but I would include him in it. It's not fair to break up with someone because of one incident.
2007-03-11 05:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u break with him/her u are still be loving him/her but what was the reason he/she is cheating ? Cause you are not there for him/her ? For how long ? Does he/she knows that u know that ? That relationship means more than a mistake ?
If you really love ⥠that person you always have to try to fix and deal to have the best of the worst, and learn about the mistakes, but always respect yourself that means dont let someone to hurt you, or play with you.
Some people say that if you cheat one time, you will do it again... but you have the last word.
So good Luck sweety and the love is always first. â¥
2007-03-11 00:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by YARA * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, I know you must feel a bit upset if not a lot. I can't believe he had the nerve to cheat on you. I'm sorry that you caught him, it must have ripped a hole in your heart. If someone heated on me, I would dump them and never look back. I want you to do what's best for you though. I can't live your life for you. I wish you the best of luck in your decision, and post what happens! -hugs and kisses-
2007-03-11 01:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Hugo rocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just switch loving someone on and off. It would be very difficult to find trust again - and that would usually end the relationship - one or the other will suffer too much stress and strain the relationship
2007-03-11 00:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by celianne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I have set the boundaries of 'play' and emotional intimacy, if he intentionally broke that agreement with the idea of deliberately hurting me knowing that level of trust would essentially destroy my perception of his wanting to have the healthy spiritual dynamic of us being close, then I'd break up with him.
Love is a gift, a state of being, not a calculated decision, so I can't know if I'd *continue* loving him.
2007-03-11 00:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ask Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREAK UP! If he was willing to cheat on you, he doesn't respect you and never will, especially if you send the message by staying with him that that behaviour is tolerable. Find someone who will love and respect you enough to be faithful.
Good luck!
2007-03-11 00:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by T C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As tough as it is, I would break up with him. If you have talked to him about it and the behavior doesn't change - why continue to put up with the heartache? Better to recognize that you deserve better rather than continue to put up with the heartache. You can continue to love him and not stay with him.
Good luck.
2007-03-11 00:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy S. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave if I knew for sure. There's no point in hanging around. I don't like the idea of sloppy seconds! Yuck!
2007-03-11 00:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can still love someone without being able to trust them, BUT I cannot be with someone I cannot trust.
Get rid of cheating bastard.
2007-03-11 03:18:05 · answer #11 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋