Whats the best way to deal with girlfriends angry18 year old son?

Question

He yells at sisters and girlfriend and is disrespectful to her slaps and pulls sisters hair screams at girlfriend daily dont know what he does to mom cause she wont tell me he has nothing to say to me ever afraid for thier safty

Answer 1

Take him on an outing just you and him so he cannot bring the others into it. Find out what is going on in his life and why he is so angry. Make it a guy thing but communicate and listen.
Also, explain to him that a good man does not lash out and hit others and make sure that you let him know he has the potential to be a good man. May be he just needs that confirmation .
Once you have hit on the root of his anger then it should be uphill from there. Good luck!

Answer 2

Convince that ham and egg er to join the army and go to Iraq. He can take out his frustrations on those Iraqis if he's REALLY man enough! Slaps and pulls sister's hair? Let me tell you something, that nonsense would not be happening in my house, when I get finished with that clown, he'll be saying the pledge of allegiance every morning, at attention no less, and saluting the American flag!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

The key word here is 18! Kick his ***! LOL What is he angry about? And who is he angry with? And why? To get an answer these things are important! If he's 18, and living with you, set some rules or out the door he goes! Then he can see what it's like in the real world!

Answer 4

Common guys...get real. How can you say its none of his business, or that the son is an adult, or that he shouldn't get involved with a woman who has children. My Stepfather is probably the best man I know, and my god, he sure put up with alot of crap from me and my 2 brothers while we were in high school.

Ignore the people who its none of your busniess, it IS your busness, just because she wont telll you or talk to you about it, doesnt mean you should just ignore it. People who are sexually assaulted wont talk about their attack to the police most of the time, does that mean its none of their busniess, its a persons natural instict to hide what they feel is embarassing or shameful, and that how she probably feels about the way she is unable to control her son.

And for those who claim he is an adult, thats a load of bull if I ever heard it, an 18 year old kid who hits women because he aint got the balls to stand up to a man, thats a child if I ever seen one. When i was 18 I was sitting in the desert staring down the sights of an M4 wondering who the next person was that would try to kill me, dont tell me this punk who hits women is a man or an adult.

If you care for this woman, you have to talk with her, and you have to explain to her that you think her son is disrespectful and that she deserves better than to have to deal with that from her son. To go beyond this point, you need to be on the same page with her, tell her you are there to suport her, but to deal with her son, she is going to have to do it.

After you and mom are on the same page, sit down with the son, ask him what his problem with you is, and ask him why he feels he needs to act like he does. You'll get the jist of how this thing will go from a conversation like this. If he ignores you and blows you off, then you have another route you can take.

That little comment about him being and adult...I still hold my position that he is nowhere near being an adult, unfortunately, the legal system doesnt see it that way, the next time you see him act violently towatrds your girlfriend or her family, call the police, maybe a night in jail will help him losen up and talk with you about what his real problem is.

I dont know your girlfriend or the exact situation, this all may work, it may not, but you need to do something. This kid his the balls to hit women and wont stand up to a man, he has some serious issues, if I were to ever see him act towards a female like this, I sure as hell would kick the crap out of him, and trust me, I could.

The most important thing is that you need to suport his mother in everything that happens, and convince her that she needs to do something about her son. If you cant convince her to stand up for herself and her family's protection, your fighting a lost cause. Good luck

Answer 5

Well, if you and your gf are serious then this situation is your business - especially if he is abusive. You need to have a talk with her and tell her that you are very concerned about his behavior and want to help. That help might be getting him out of the house or helping her to file a restraining order. Either way, the only thing you can do is talk to her and try to get her to see that it isn't healthy for her or her daughter.

Answer 6

Wow. First try to find out WHAT he's so angry about. You are right to be worried. It sounds like he's too far gone to see you as a good male role model. The next time he abuses one of the females, an anonymous call to the police may scare him. Feel me?

Answer 7

Sit down with them all and talk with the boy, tell him that it is not a proper way to behave with the family and girlfriend and if he wants some sort of help to deal with his Anger?

Answer 8

Don't get involved with a woman with children. The son is an adult and if you insist on being involved with this woman and her nasty family, you'll have to accept that the son doesn't have to listen to you and anything you say will probably make him even more angry 'cause you're just some smuck who is banging his mom.

Answer 9

Marine Corps.

Answer 10

I think you should voice your opnion to your girlfreind by telling her that her son is very disrespectful. If you cant handle him now, what happens when if you get married?