Do you end the friendship to make your future-spouse happy? Why or why not?
2007-03-10 22:59:47 · 24 answers · asked by Miss D 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think I'd really have to do some soul searching. I'd have to really talk to my fiance and understand why he doesn't trust that you guys are platonic friends now. I wish that I could still be friends with my exes but I have to respect my husband's wishes. Sometimes I think I might resent him for it... but at the same time I understand where he's coming from since it wasn't discussed until after we were married. I think that if you were able to stay friends with your ex you would grow apart anyways. BUT if you were forbidden to talk to him you'd always want to.
2007-03-11 17:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i think you need to really look at your relationship with both your ex and your fiance. if you have done nothing like spend an extrodinary amount of time with the ex, or talk about him all the time, ( which would make anybody jealous) then i say no, don't give up your friend. maybe you should give up the fiance instead. sometimes, people who have problems with self esteem, will get you into a relationship and then try to isolate you from your family and friends, so they can have total control of your life, once they have accomplished that, they make your life a living hell. they will accuse you of ridiculous things and may even become physically abusive. you will be sorry, if you bow down and let yourself get into that situation.
maybe this person is not the one for you! so after you take a good honest look at your relationship with the ex, and if you find that you have done nothing to make the fiance jealous. then don't do it. if on the other hand you can see where you've done something that would make the fiance feel threatened by your continuing contact with the ex, then you should tone yourself down a notch or 2. still i wouldn't give up a friend. maybe you both aren't ready to get married. just yet.
2007-03-10 23:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would put this question to your fiance.
Will you not see or speak to (a female friend of his) ?
He may see that guy as a threat because he is insecure.
He may have noticed the guy looks at you a certain way.
You may have a gleam in your eye when he his mentioned or he's around.
Your fiance may have a good reason..
or maybe he believes that like himself, all guys are in it for the sex.
Maybe you aren't decided on who you really want to marry. So you keep the old boyfriend around, just in case.
2007-03-10 23:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say end the friendship or come to some sort of agreement allowing the spouse to see one of their ex's to make it even. If you keep the friendship up, chances are that the fiancee will be jealous and it'll cause marriage problems!
2007-03-10 23:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shakiki 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your EX is past but still have some place in your heart only , your new spouse is not suppose to carry what you had in your past , Healthy relationship from any kind had limits and conditions , No place for Ex spouse in new marriage trust me , If that relationship would destroy your marriage you dont need it , at least consider it sacrifice for your new love and marriage keep the nice and good memory but live and let live wish you all the best always .
2007-03-10 23:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
YES of course you stop seeing your ex. It doesn't matter that you are still friends....there still could be feelings there...and if they are NOT there, who is to say that old feelings won't surface later on down the road? And why do you NEED to have this ex in your life? Is his friendship worth upsetting your man? Are there no other girl friends you can find out there? If you love him you will respect him and cut it off with the ex.
2007-03-10 23:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If he doesn't trust you or believe you that he is JUST A FRIEND now then he is not worty of your love. (sorry but its true) because now it will be an Ex then it can be a friend that he doesn't like then it can be family that he doesnt like.. What will you do? stop talking to the world for someone who doesnt trust you? If he loves you he would trust you with anyone.
2007-03-10 23:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by alice_nobleandkind 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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to be engaged to be married is just that.. a ex is a ex. and why would you want to hurt your new love any way.. my 100% would go to my fiancee and my ex is in the past ..also if their are children involved with the ex.. well surely it is only natural that you have some sort of contact their ..
2007-03-10 23:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
a friend is a friend there is nothing goin on i hope and if he has a problem then there is going to be serious problems in the future when you want time on you own with friends and he just wants to controll i would find another or try and sort it out by setting some gound rules
2007-03-10 23:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by Pastinie 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No...if he not secure enough to trust you then there is no real trust in this relationship. Two of my best friends are males and have been for 20 plus years. I have dated both of them when I was younger. We are great friends now. No way would I give them up because some guy can't trust me.
2007-03-10 23:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋