...the pain they cause their children when they get divorced? I mean I had to be put on antidepressants (when I was 12!)and I have 20+ scars on my wrists and I cry every night...all because of them.
2007-03-10 22:28:28 · 14 answers · asked by tigrusoare 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FYI I'm not a child anymore and I KNOW that it was a dumb idea to be cutting.
2007-03-10 22:41:23 · update #1
AND after the divorce, fighting got worse and the situation got worse. nobody is happy, not even now, years later.
2007-03-10 22:45:08 · update #2
DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY are going through? As far as cutting yourself, YOU did that trying to get attention and to have them feel sorry for YOU, NOT them. Grow up and see what they are having to go through. No one gets married and expects a Divorce. I guess you are the Favorite of one of them, and now its going to cut into your life by having to show some compassion and understanding. Stop whining, and try to help and be there for them as I am sure it NOT easy on them either.
2007-03-10 22:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do understand but think of it like this; would you rather they stayed together -constantly fighting,yelling,and making themselves and each other and you miserable? Or would you rather they got a divorce,learned what they really are worth to themselves and were happy again.
Some one once asked me wouldn't it be better for the kids to have to 2 parents separated and happy, then together and miserable?
I can tell you that BOTH your parents do love you and if they were being stupid and putting you in the middle of there divorce then they need to stop acting like children and take care of the ones they made.
I'm deeply sorry that you had to go thru that but it just may turn out OK in the end.
And you need to talk to your parents and let them know how you really feel about they actions.
2007-03-10 22:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by bjustnape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one.... Some people just aren't good for each other and they don't want to inflict their pain on to there children by arguing and making the family unhappy. You need to see a councillor if your not already seeing one.
Just remember this problem does not reflect on you, some how you have to move on in the hope that your parents are happy doing their own things now.
Remember they still love you even if they are not together
Good luck
2007-03-10 22:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents appreciate how hard it is for the children when they split up/ But would you rather your parents stayed together for your sake and ended up both really depressed and hating each other, arguing every day. I bet they thought really hard about the divorce and probably discussed staying together for your sake, but sometimes it hurts the kids more to see their parents ripping each other apart than divorcing. Your parents didn't split up to spite you or to hurt you but you can't expect them to stay miserable and really unhappy for the kids sake, how would it make you feel if you knew your parents stayed together and miserable because of you?. Tell them you feel sad they broke up and that you will not take sides.
2007-03-10 22:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Charley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing , you are scared of the unknown thats why.Youre parents still love you.It is very hard for you to underdtand now,but when you are older and maybe married , divorce is the best thing that would have happened to you.Its not your fault, use them as an example, dont be miserable like them.NOW is time for you.
2007-03-10 22:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that being expertise in direction of the infants does certainly shop a healthful courting between the two factors. My mothers and dads are very very like this. yet, they draw the line. i do no longer desire to assert they have been strict on me fullyyt, yet they specific knew what grew to become into stunning and incorrect and taught me lots of it. Violet
2016-10-18 02:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do understand. I went through a nasty divorce, and saw the pain in my son. Luckily he's not old enough to remember any of it, but it was tough on him.
2007-03-10 22:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents such as yours are only into themselves. Since you are an adult, divorce them and find some people that act like adults. They love their drama, let them enjoy it, minus you.
2007-03-10 23:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always try and find something to put the blame on. You ever just thought to yourself that you might just be plain ole CRAZY?
2007-03-10 22:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They already don't understand their own marriage. How could they understand their own kids. I know it's hard for you too. Guess things would work on fine after the divorce.
2007-03-10 22:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋