My 15 yo son has been 'nicking off' from school and was recently caught stealing with his 3 good mates. Should I ban him from seeing them socially after his grounding is over. They have a history of stealing, my boy doesn't. We are new in this city and he doesn't think he'll make other friends. I've got him involved in playing Lacrosse but that's all he'll play and the season is only for 3 months. Help!!!!!!
2007-03-10 22:26:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I suggest you ask him to sit down and talk to him. Try to explain him of course he is the one to choose his friends but that friends who asks him to steal and to do bad things are not worth to have because this way they can go into serious troubles. Tell him that if he keeps stealing, they can catch him for serious and put him overnight in the prison, that could influence him later because no college would want him if he was in the prison for mischief. Ask your husband to support you when you talk to him and without yelling on him or without serious argument just try to suggest him he is old enough to be responsible for the actions he undertakes and that he has a head into his shoulders to understand that stealing isn't good. Ask him directly why he needs to steal and why he needs to show off his stealing ability to his friends. Of course he could find other friends in the new city..I think without friends is much better than with a gang of boys who steal. Well you can't ban him for being friend with this guys, if you forbid him he would find a way to be with them together but you could try to help him make the right decision and see the truth that this guys are not the right to be friends with. Maybe you could ask him if he wants to participate in more sport activities, not just Lacrosse but sports like basketball, tabble tennis or to join some youth groups or whatever just to fill up his time so that he has less time to hang with this guys. Also the environment he is into is very important and the influence on this age he is so just try to help him make up his mind what is right and what is not. You better know his interests, urge him to pursue his interests and just try to distract his mind so that he stop thinking about this bad boys. I am sure that if he starts to participate more sports he should find better friends to hang out with.
I hope everything will be alright in the new city for your family and that your son will find another friends.
2007-03-11 11:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make the stealer work
and learn the value of money.
$ is the ONLY thing todays 15 year old know all sissy boys understand.
I work in a high school and see the importance these twerps place on themselves these days.
Remember back to when we were 15 year olds?
Reality check..
15 year old kids have nil to offer the world.
They're not real functioning and useful people till they're adults.
They are just bland humans.
Not the wannabee 30 year olds the world treats them as.
2007-03-10 22:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by satnee2003 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont banned him for not being with his 3 friends. This would make him wanna meet & hang around with them more. Just tell him that stealing is wrong. Hope he would understand. Cuz he is already 15.
2007-03-10 22:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he started stealing because his closest friend steal...since you guys are new to the city he thinks that those are the only friends he will ever make...the best way to get him out of that is a girl. Get him a girl n he will start bein a good kid
2007-03-10 22:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by ¿¿¿jeff??? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest talking to him and listening to him. Banning him from his mates is not the route to take. It never works.
Perhaps have them all over for dinner sometime. Be open and honest without confrontation. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-10 22:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your son wants to hang out, suggest to him that he find other friends. And this playing hookey from school should be stopped
2016-10-29 07:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you must.
if he still cheats. he will get flunked soon as when you get a report card.
you must tell your son he will not play lacrosse anymore unless he must change first.
if not work, you need to call cop and get your son lockup at jurneville for teaching him new lesson... you have a right to call cop and have your son lockup at jurv life is not a joke
2007-03-10 22:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by gadgetki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
his friends are bad influence if he has never had a history. don't allow him to be with them as they will ruin his life and probably influence him to start drugs.
2007-03-10 22:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by sadlonelylife 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with a good'ole butt whipping.
2007-03-10 22:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋