I have a friend of mine, i like her a lot BUT!!?

Question

She is going out with a guy, so we went out like many couples together, and he was like a BIG LIER, a BIG BIG BIG ONE, all commented on him and said that she must not see him anymore because he is BAD news, so i told her, and she is still seeing him,

Well now that's not the deal, the deal is he is rude and like i think she is with him because he keeps buying her stuff and taking her our, she is 26 and good looking, i like her too much for her to waste her time with him,

she lives with 2 other girls in the house, and like he goes to her house daily for like 4-6 hours and stays with her in the room??? her House mates called me complaining that this is too much, and i should talk to her.....come on what shall i do with her, she is like a sis, but she isnt listening to me :( HELP
I know i sound like a 6 years old but he gives me the freaks and chills as well :P he is even avoiding me ( i think she told him what i said) my husband said to leave them alone its not our business???

hey joey, as i said she is a very close freind of ours DUHH, you Butt Out

Ya Mommy Webby, thank you hayete, you are right, and most probaly she is using him hheheh, she is a pure Cha7adeh :P

Answer 1

She is stupid, that friend of urs for not being aware that he is a big liar first of all.....u said she is like a sis to u???? well, if she were, she would have listened to u, and wondered a bit about the reasons behind ur interference....it seems she is in love and she is so blind to see the negative side....let her enjoy those moments, but once she will discover his truth, she will regret a lot....
as for what u can do, tell her flatmates who complain about his continuous and never ending visits to ask her to put an end to this, a place where 3 girls are living should have more privacy i suppose, but anyways, even if he will stop from visiting her, it wont matter a lot as long as they are seeing each other and going out,
you have to point out to specific issues to convince her that he is a liar and she should start looking for someone else.....and let her know, that the person who buys u stuff and takes u out is not necessary a good partner, because if he were, he wouldnt had recourse to material stuff to gain her love......i dont know if this will help u.... :)

Answer 2

I really understand how you feel...
I actually went through the same thing, and at a gathering, he was flirting with everyone, he even tried to kiss me. After a while, he brought his friends over, and by the end of the night, 1 IPOD + 1 CAMERA + 1 PHONE WERE MISSING! Oh! Can you imagine the drama that followed!!!
Except, i did a big mistake, i stopped talking to her...
Listen, really, if you want to be a "good friend", you should stick by her side... She will really be thankful.
In another question, you asked what is our motto in life. To tell you the truth, my motto is that there is justice in this world... If he is a big liar, a manipulator, a creep, a freak, all this will be revealed... It's kind of a personal belief, but i really believe in it. It's like men who cheat on their wives. Whether it be after a week, two years, five years after, the wives always seem to find out, don't they?
Don't worry :) she will realise what an a** he is. All you have to do is stay by her side, and support her, i swear you will feel so much better when this is all over... Just don't say "i told you so"!!!!! lol :D
Yalla, take care.

Answer 3

I understand your point of view, but in spite of you like her lots, you must allow her to live her own life. You have already made your part, you avoided her....and she decided not to listen at you. So.your duty as friend is done. She decided to make her own mistakes, and that is life about. you cant live her life for her. She is already 26. Your husband is right..
The only you can do now, is to tell her about the feelings of her house mates. She has to respect them or to move. She is doing bad taking the guy with her in a place that is not only for her. tell her that the other girls feel bad about that......and have the right to feel like that.
She can do what she want...........but outside that place.

Answer 4

I learned that whenever you try to convince a friend that s/he is screwing up s/he will only end up hating you.

What I like most is the part where they say "Yes, but I'm enjoying this right now at least as much as s/he is enjoying it". OR "I will end this relation when the time comes". or "It's very hard to quit right now cause s/he makes me feel really good".

As webby said, just stick around her cause she will need a friend next to her soon.

Answer 5

U have to be ownest together U need to sit with here and talk about it what do U really want from him and what do he really wants from U if she knows that the relation is about gifts from him and having fun from here then both of them know what they really wants and it's better for u to stay out of it but if she had no idea about it then U have to get Involve but the Huge sign is that she is 26 so 100% she knows what is all about & since both are happy stay out of it every one is getting what he or she are looking for

Answer 6

i was in the same situation & i did all my best to warning her but she never listen - i wasnt married or have a boy friend that is why? her x told her that am jeulous from them... i was like a crazy becuse she was a very good girl from a very good family but she never liestn... now she is a loser and she is always remember my words... i think this her destany that is way after a while i stoped warnig her she was as like as a blind she couldnt listen or see any one exept him...


so my advice to you if you like her as a sis , you already warned her ... enugh.
in the same time your husband is right,becuse she will never listen

Answer 7

Mrs president, as your chief assistant my duty is to inform that they are all right. Butt out.

My daughter, ( somehow this sounds so much better in arabic.lol) life has taught me that there is nothing you can do about the situation. As you don't mention a gun pointed to your friend's head we have to assume that she is with him by complete choice and at 26 she is no baby either.
Also from what you say it sounds to me that she is using him as much as he is using her.
so here is your job description as a good friend:
1- Be happy for her: she is happy.
2- respect her choices: and support her even if you don't agree because you will want her to do the same with you
3- be loyal: stick around because if he is bad news she will want a friend when her world crumbles around her.

Answer 8

i've got variety of long gone throught this, okayy here it is going. go away HIM female! he's no longer nicely worth it sluggish. in case you're think to have confidence him and he doesnt have confidence you thats ****** up. and that i'm able to tell that he's in basic terms putting different ladies formerly you, once you'll be his genuine priority. You the two might desire to stability it out and take care of eachother such as you opt to be dealt with, you already know what i advise. in case you already tried speaking to him a million circumstances and he doesnt hear, then obviuously he's no longer gonna exchange. you'll be able to desire to locate somebody who provide you with what you deserve. And with him continually putting you down, he in basic terms needs to make himself sense sturdy in that way. Dont permit him take care of you like this. I guess you're youthful and actually extraordinarily, so locate somebody who meets your standards, reason i understand this boyfriend of yours doesnt. he's no longer the 1st boyfriend you have ever had, so why persist with him and make him your final :) go away him and tell him which you deserve much extra effectual and because he hasnt made an attempt to alter then he wont ever be nicely worth it. Who cares in case you injury him, he's often hurted you. and in case you do go away him, dont talk **** or dont be telling everybody that your happy or relived or that your sadd. reason then that supplies him extra of an benefit to talk **** approximately you. :)

Answer 9

She likes the a**holes. She is already banging this loser and she's not going to stop for you. Some girls are just into losers. When that is the case, nothing you can do will change it. So, you need to get out now while you still can.

Answer 10

I was once with my best friend at the beach and my brother arrived with a friend.
" so I told her " oh no, here comes this guy he is so full of himself, I hate him"
anyway, they are now married and our friendship has gone back a lot.
so ask yourself if you are willing to lose her over a man?