It's not that I don't enjoy being around people, but unless I have some reason to go out, it just doesn't appeal to me. I'd rather stay home and watch TV or go on the computer than go to the mall to hang out, or go to a club. Does that make me wierd? It's kinda affected my personality because I'm VERY shy, and even though I'm good looking, I've been on one date and I'm 20 years old.
2007-03-10 20:45:07 · 9 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, I think you said it yourself- you tend to be antisocal sometimes because you are shy :)
Shyness can be quite debilitating - I was myself a very shy kid and I feel i missed out on so many things because of it.
So I really do think you should do things in order to understand your shyness - and then to try to overcome it.
You can start by clearing out why you are shy - this should involve some self analysis -e.g I'm scared of not being liked, I'm afraid of being rejected, I can't accept affection 'cos I find it emabarassing, I'm self conscious 'cos I seek perfection and so on.. these are just examples. You must try to understand what is hiding behind your shyness.
Then you should start visualizing yourself not in the centre of attention - but rather watching an act - that way you won't feel you are in the spot light - rather you ll enjoy watching others who are there. This should give you some freedom of action. You can try acting out the oppostie of your fear- just literally act it out. You will feel relieved you can actually do what you are afraid of doing! This will give you confidence.
... and ...
Later you must learn the joy of goofing around with friends--- if you dont have many friends , don't worry - you should start building them.
The easiest way to make friends is JUST doing things with people. Goofing is a relaxed form of socializing - excellent cure for shyness :)
Hope this have helped you somehow ..
Good Luck !
2007-03-11 00:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, its part of growing up, bro!
As a matter of fact, your comments reflect on a level of maturity on your side. Perhaps you might feel that you are more advanced in a certain way that when you look at the people around you they seem to make you feel bored or something.
I experience this too (and I am over and done with it). The most obvious part in life that you feel this is especially when you had just left school.
Don't worry, be yourself and reason things out. I am sure that your friends are okay and cool with it.
2007-03-11 06:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes ppl r just not the outgoing type ive been best friends wit this girl 4 2yrs now and we've only ever been out shoppin n to the movies a few times we'd rather spend time at skool than go out cuz we have different lives outta skool and sometimes its beta 2 b in ur own company than others
2007-03-11 05:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by No Name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..im just like that too..n i dont think theres anything wrong with not wanting to always hang out with a huge group of friends or strangers. as long as u have a few realy good friends n some people around u who u love n who love u..u dont need anything else..provided u r happy
2007-03-11 05:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Riti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, mate. I don't follow the crowd of play the game either. It has cost me in some ways, but in other ways I am totally free to do what I want to do. Don't conform. Do your own thing.
2007-03-11 05:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok to prefer your own company to other peoples, i think its alot healthier than constantly having to be surrounded by people to feel comfortable. i'm quite happy on my own, but thats just because of the way i am, im not particularly shy. if you feel that you dont like to socialise because of your shyness, or your shyness is holding you back socialy, then try to work on it because otherwise you'll become unhappy.
2007-03-11 06:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by bojanglestothemax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect yourself for what you are! And what has dating to do with age???? Some of my friends are 27 and above and they have not gone on a single date!!!
2007-03-11 05:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mooch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you find that you just can't mix with the herd. Not always a bad thing.
2007-03-11 05:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just introverted
2007-03-11 05:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ⓐ iinux2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋