She told me that there are these boys that she doesn't like but they seem to like her. Well, she wants to know whats the best way to get them to leave her alone?
2007-03-10 20:28:38 · 31 answers · asked by T78 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you have to tell them because if you dont they will try harder to get your attention
2007-03-10 20:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem with teenage girls(i know because I am one) is we don't want to hurt anyone feelings. But yet we want boys we don't like to leave us alone. But here's the thing, when a girl likes a guy the guy sometimes doesn't like her back and the girl is really upset and while that guy is hurting her, she doesn't seem to realize she's hurting another guy in the exact same way. And the thing is the guy that likes her maybe not the most attractive guy or nicest guy but he likes her and cares. Maybe a better way to put is give at least some of them a chance.
Or another way is to just to let them down easy and say that you don't feel the same way but you want to be friends...unless of course you don't want to be friends. if they still don't leave her alone after that just ignore them.
But if they just won't stop! Get a boyfriend or have someone protect you! Just kidding! Just make sure you let them know you're defiantly not interested and if all else fails....now this will sound mean but say something that will make them mad...and TRUST me they will leave her alone. But the best way would probably be to let them down easy.
2007-03-11 01:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Team Potter(screw Twilight)<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's deep. My fiance's son has a young form of autism and now and back i think an identical way your husband does. that's tougher for many folk to settle for somebody else's baby than they do their very own. I had a real no longer ordinary time interior the start yet I in no way placed my palms on him. besides the certainty that I used to day dream approximately throwing him off of the balcony and pushing him out into site visitors--those have been in straight forward terms recommendations and that i felt terrible because of the fact i could no longer harm a fly. i does no longer deliver him away because of the fact somebody else did no longer like him although. in the adventure that your husband won't be able to get with this methodology then he desires to pass away. i understand that's no longer ordinary yet i eventually did come around and learn how to love the little boy. possibly your husband will too.On yet another notice, purely because of the fact the boy is autistic does no longer propose he has the best to be disrespectful. My fiance's son concept an identical element for a at the same time as till i desperate I wouldnt watch him to any extent further or take him everywhere. Then he desperate to place down some regulations and rules and the boy grew to become into compelled to abide by making use of them. Now we get alongside purely advantageous. i do no longer think of that's the autism that your husband would not like---its the shortcoming of know your son has---no count if he's 4 or 40 he desires to earnings to know alternative persons!! Thats your fault and in case you marriage fails, that would additionally be your fault.
2016-10-18 02:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on what these boys are doing.
If they are fisically or sexually abusing her try this:
My friend has the same problem. Ever since she hooked up with an a$$hole every1 is treating her as if she is a s.l.u.t.
Get your niece to go around with her friends (it is harder to do anything if she is in a large group) try to get her bring along a couple of friends that are guys.
If they are just hanging around her I can relate. I am new in my town (more like continent since I moved to Italy this Summer) and I had never been liked by any1 before this year and now I seem to be liked by some guys I personally don't like. There is nothing to really do in this case except just ignore their remarks and stay in a group of friends.
I hope everything goes well!
2007-03-10 23:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! T78.
As there are a few of these boys maybe they are seeing her as a friend.
Sometimes things can be taken out of context.
A woman is a responder, if a man looks at her and smiles he may just be being friendly and she can take it the wrong way.
If it is the way that she thinks all she needs to do is respect herself and use her manners toward them a friendly" hello! as she walks by and leave it at that.
Take care!
2007-03-10 23:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A plain and simple "Not interested, sorry"
Don't go to the police, if she encounters them at school, tell her to maybe go to a teacher that she trusts and let them know that there's a few boys bothering her.
And if she feels threatened, as in they get to the point where they start stalking her, and she feels she might get, raped, kidnapped, beat up, murdered. Then I would go to the police.
It just sounds like she's being too nice to let them down.
2007-03-10 22:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by hero_racer2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Simply tell them that she isn't interested in being with them. I'm curious to know what the ages of these children are. If they were teenager or older, she wouldn't need you to post a question for her.
2007-03-10 20:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
“My granddaughter had this problem and she is only in 3rd grade! We practiced role-playing together so she would be comfortable in saying, "Please stop, I don’t like that,” or “That’s not fun anymore. I don’t want you to do that.”
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Play what–if games. Ask them, for example, "what would you say if a boy came over and wanted to spend time with you and you didn't want him to." Keep asking what–if questions like this until you are sure that your children feel comfortable expressing their feelings to boys. They should practice saying “no” in a clear, forceful voice. To help them further along, you can even make a fun game of saying “no” in a variety of ways, such as saying “no” like a mouse or saying “no” like a lion.
2007-03-18 13:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be honest with them and tell them she has no interest at all in them to leave her alone, or she will tell someone who has authority. like the principal, and if that don't work, just talk to a police officer and see what you can do. good luck.
2007-03-11 05:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more attention paid on any level just warrents undue credit given
be civily sociable but clear there is no interest
in time - will move on to next target
if feel they are continuing to be a bother may need to borrow a big brother theory
2007-03-18 12:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should tell them she doesn't like them so if they really like her just do her a favor and leave her alone.
2007-03-18 11:35:01 · answer #11 · answered by CB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋