My husband who has moved away and pays no child support and has been a complete *********** now wants to bring his parents to see the children. He wants to stay longer by himself after they have gone.
I am so angry, upset - there has been such stress and worry about having no money and no insurance. He left the country and took a great job abroad, and has given us no child support at all since. His parents hate me - I'm ten years older than him, and they have never liked me.
On top of all the stress and hardship recently he wants them to come and see us, take the children out for posh meals, and to pretend nothing is wrong....I can't stand this!!!
What to do.....?
2007-03-10 20:07:53 · 9 answers · asked by katy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the answers! I would like to tell him and his parents to **** off, but I know that they have a right to see the children. The children, however, do not want to see them - they are very aware how hard it has been recently, although I have tried to make sure all their needs are met. Child support and visitation should be separate issues, I know. But I am still married to this deadbeat, and I do feel that he is trying to walk all over me. I want to fight back (and not be a weak little whatever)...but I do not know how. The courts have prescribed ideas about visitation - but we're not in that boat yet. I do feel this guy has a cheek, this is ridiculous. How to fight back - if I say **** off, it will probably turn up in divorce papers. How do I assert my feelings, and the children's, now? I think he should be sending some child support, not freaking us out!
2007-03-10 20:22:20 · update #1
Are you sure he has no visitation rights if he doesn't pay child support? We're not divorced, still married, though he left two years ago for another country.
2007-03-10 20:25:28 · update #2
Tell them that money has been extremely tight for you and that you can't afford to have any guests in your home at this time. However here is a list of hotels/motels that are close by. Give me a call when you get in. and leave it like that!!! You are under NO obligation to house them in your home or feed them or anything else!!! Good Luck!!!!!
2007-03-10 20:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a well paying job and doesn't pay child support he gots not visitation rights for the kids and hell no his parents don't have the right. Tell them to go ***** off.
2007-03-10 20:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support and Visitation vary by state in the U.S.- U would have to talk to a lawyer about all that, but I know that nothing legal can happen to you if u don't let him see them with your current situation-so I would tell him to &(*! off until he show's he is stable and serious about re-building his relationship with his children-don't force your children to see him but let them if they want to.
2007-03-10 22:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by sss_1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the right to see them regardless of whether he sends money. if the parents want to visit they have the right but not in your home. Make it clear they all have to stay in a hotel.
2007-03-10 20:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are his children, too, so don't try to keep him from them. But your kids have a right to know that he has refused to support them.
2007-03-10 20:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a weak little person who can't assert themselves?
unless they are paying your bills or contributing in some way you can't ...then just tell them you are not their foot ball to kick around anymore.
you are nuts to put up with losers who only pull you down...time to get yourself some courage or be a loser forever
2007-03-10 20:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't support the kids, so he has no right to see them. plain as that!
2007-03-10 20:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him it's not your responsibility to provide free accommodation.
2007-03-10 20:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him and his family to %^$# off
2007-03-10 20:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by monika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋