He is bit nervous to see me crying and suffering. He is not able to decide. I am 21 and he is 26. I have never seen him fearing for anything. He is always bold in making decisions, to the extent, he is promoted thrice in last 2 years in his office. But it is some thing different. We could not decide. Please help.
2007-03-10 20:02:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I date is 22nd of this month and doctor re confirmed it yesterday also.
2007-03-10 20:04:53 · update #1
My husband was also very nervous for the same reasons, as well as the whole blood and guts issue. Although he was bothered by my discomfort, he cried for joy when our son was born and didn't even notice the blood, etc. Looking back, he wouldn't have missed it. Your husband can always have a seat up by your head if he is nervous, or he could always leave if it gets to be too much. Maybe you will have no pain and smile the whole way thru the two pushes it'll take to deliver! Who knows? If he waits in the waiting room or doesn't want to cut the cord or touch the baby until after the bath or whatever, it doesn't make him any less of a father. I just wouldn't want him to regret not being there, as my husband stated, it is truely life changing and he will look at you in a whole different light! Good luck to you both and just do what feels right to you!
2007-03-10 20:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by MI Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly recommend it. It is an experience that he wouldn't want to miss for anything. What makes you think you'll be suffering and crying? If you have an epidural you won't feel any pain. Men belong there in the delivery room. They need to experience it and it gives them a good strong bond with the baby too. Tell him to stop being such a coward and step up to the plate.
2007-03-10 20:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand, my first husband(and that i pressure first) stated an identical issue, and he ended up being there with me, i in my opinion cant see how someone can boost anticipation like that once 9 months and in no way favor to be there suitable even as the toddler is born. I wish i could have familiar that became an illustration suitable there that this guy became no reliable, yet i wager I wouldnt have my 2 marvelous daughters if I hadnt ignored that clue.
2016-12-01 19:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by yau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First would you like him in the delivery room with you ? Having a baby can be nerve recking certianly if its both your first time. Or anytime for that matter. It sound like he isn't100 % against being in there. Have the both of you gone to any classes for childing delivery? If so then the only thing I can suggestion is that the both of you think long and hard about the desicion and I'll pray for the both of you that you both are content with the desicion you both have come upon.
2007-03-10 20:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by murphyhortensia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should definitely be there! That is an experience that will only happen once...no matter how many kids you have. And there is something special about going through that with your spouse. I'm telling you what though, he sure will appreciate you a lot more after this because then he REALLY gets to see what you had to go through! lol! And when all is said and done...he'll be glad he went.
I wish you luck and a speedy labor and delivery!!
2007-03-10 20:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a husband who watched his wife go through all of it without an epidural, while getting an episiotomy at the same time... he will be fine. It really is not as worrying as it may seem like it should be. He will be too distracted by everything else going on to be nervous. It all happens too fast to think about it.
Hope that helps :)
2007-03-10 20:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by indiginouslizard 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is nervous, perhaps you could give him some specific tasks ie: massage, rubbing your head etc.
This should keep him focused on looking after you and take the focus or fear out of the whole situation.
My husband was the same at the beginning and turned out to be the reason why I loved giving birth.
Good luck - I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!!!!
2007-03-10 20:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by melly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was there having fun while making the baby, so he should be there when you are going through the pain of having the baby. If nothing but to support you through it all. He doesn't have to go down and look at anything, he can stay up by your head and hold your hand and just be there for you.
2007-03-10 20:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by marykerbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's nervous! He doesn't want to see someone he cares about and loves very much in pain. He, however, has nature on his side. Men strive to protect their families. It's their nature to take care of and their ladies. He may be nervous and uncomfortable about the idea of watching you in labor now, but trust me he will truly shine in the delivery room when it comes to comforting you. It will probably also give him an enormous boost of confidence!
Having my husband by my side during my own labor is one of my most cherished memories. The feeling of watching our son born together is beyond explantation. Don't worry! Please encourage hubby to attend your special moment!
2007-03-11 06:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whether he wants to be or not i feel he should be in the room. because its not everyday you get to see someone who is half of you welcomed into the world. my husband didnt like to see me in pain either but he was still there. and i dont know what i would of done if he wasnt in the room with me. tell him he has as much right as you to be there because its his child, hell get over you crying and screaming because when he sees the life that has come from you hell forget everything else.
2007-03-10 20:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by oneandonlyness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋